Marriage is a great institution, but I'm not ready for an institution yet.

[metalkpretty]

Right now my brother is getting ready to go to his girlfriend's sister's wedding. What I find so amusing about this is that this time last year, my brother was also getting ready to go to the girlfriend's sister's wedding. But that was wedding number one, and this is wedding number two. I don't know this sister, but I believe she is my age (24

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[zigb]

I know what you mean about feeling spinsterish. Most of my friends are either married or in serious relationship/engaged. And it seems like everyone I know is pregnant too. So far only one of my friends is getting divorced, this is why shouldn't get married at 18 to a guy you barely know and will never see because he's in the navy. The only reason they lasted 4 years was because he was gone, now he's home and they hate each other.

But, yeah, I'm in no rush to get married and don't understand people who are. The only normal healthy relationship I know (my age) are two friends who've been together since they were 15 and were together for 7 years before getting married.

[metalkpretty]

I'm worried about feeling like a spinster now because I'm sure I'll feel like one for many more years. I don't really think marriage is in my future, so I'm just going to keep getting older and older and continue being single. Right now I'm fine not being married, but it gets rather annoying when people are constantly asking about my love life. We may be in the minority when it comes to not being in a rush to get married, but we'll probably be better off and save ourselves a lot of drama.

[oxymoron67]

Wait until you hit my age and you start to see people leaving their second spouses. (And I'm not that old.)

[metalkpretty]

Yeah, I'm already expecting to see people leave their first spouses soon, so leaving number 2 probably won't be far behind that.

[swarles]

I'm glad it's not just my friends who seem to be doing this. I spend a lot of time upset about all the things they seem to have that I don't (like houses of their own) but I hadn't considered the "give them a few years and they'll be divorced" angle. It makes me feel a little better.

[metalkpretty]

I'm like you and often feel upset or even jealous of those who are attending grad school, who have a kick ass job, who have gotten married, etc. I do feel bad for expecting people's marriages to fail, but it does help me to feel a little better about myself. I'm not rooting for them to fail, but it seems that quite a few will.

[library_of_sex]

Heh, many of my friends from high school have babies but none are married yet. I think attending a Catholic girls school messed us all up!

[metalkpretty]

That's amusing (and maybe kind of sad too). I'm actually surprised that I know so many people who managed to get married first before having a baby. Although, now that I think about it, I can remember a couple of high school friends/acquaintances who had babies right after they graduated. But I've mostly been thinking about my college acquaintances who got married right away.

[filwdork]

I have three really close friends getting married this year, another expecting her second child and the only friends that aren't married or engaged are in serious relationships.

So I totally get what you are saying. And it's not even that I want to be married or in a relationship, I just want some single friends to hang out with!

[metalkpretty]

I have one friend (not a very close one) who is getting married today and another who will be having her baby in a couple of weeks. I also have two other friends (once again, we're not that close) who are getting married in a couple of months. Craziness.

I'm with you on wanting single friends to hang out with. With me, once the majority of my friends got into serious relationships, my relationship with them rapidly deteriorated. It's a bummer.