It ambushes you.

[mellymell]

I was reading an interview with Toni Morrison and she was talking about losing her son 18 months ago and about how she didn't want to hear people's words of condolence. About how people say, "I'm so sorry," but how there's really no language for a loss like that. She said that I'm sorry doesn't cover it. I remember feeling that way when my mom died

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[padawansguide]

It's hard to know what to do or say because everyone reacts differently. "I'm sorry" is insignificant, of course - but I'm not sure what is significant in the face of death. It's a hard thing, probably the hardest, for all its inevitability. But I am sorry. *more hugs*

[mellymell]

Words do seem inadequate, I'll agree with her there. But they express a sentiment far greater than the words themselves and when language is all we have to express something, we have to accept the limitations of the medium. Thank you so much for your kind words and long distance hugs. *hugs*

[belluthien]

I understand feeling ambushed. It happened asi I hit the road from Lesa's toward San Antonio. First full song to hit the radio was Rocket Man. It was a hug from the other side, pulling tears like poison from the wound, as you say.

And then there are words like these you write here. Got me! ;-)

I hope you and yours are doing ok, moment by moment. You have been on my mind.

Hugs you again,
y

[mellymell]

You have been on my mind as well. I tried to text you on my way back home Friday night, but I was having trouble getting a signal between Huntsville and Nashville. I'm sure you've been ambushed your fair share

[mellymell]

Your hugs from afar are more than enough, thank you! *hugs back*

I like the stunted hockey fans expression of empathy. That's a good one!

It is good to lose your shit sometimes. Those feelings are there and they deserve acknowledgement once in a while. We don't need to go around being a sniveling mess or anything, but to release some pressure from the dam occasionally is good for the soul. The taoist in me wants to say, without grief, we wouldn't know joy.

[mellymell]

Thank you so much for coming back to comment. It really means the world to me. I know how busy you are and it means so much that you took some time to offer condolence. You didn't have to, but thank you so much. *hugs* Love you, too.

[mellymell]

As I read back over the entry, I was thinking about how well acquainted you are with grief. It shines right through in The Human. That scene where Story's dad tells her it's not her time gets me every time. Thanks again, hon. You really mean a lot to me. *moar hugs*