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[lulie]

Premise 1: Discussing stuff, understanding what another person is saying, and agreeing is hard at the best of times.

Premise 2: It's even harder if it's an area where people are typically irrational about (lack of rational ways of handling information means it's harder to pass on and receive that information).

Premise 3: Romance is an area that

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[anonymous]

So are you now in favour of romantic couples continuing to be romantic couples?

Francis

[timmyson]

Premise 4: Interacting less leads to less happiness in a romantic relationship.

Premise 5: People strive to maximize happiness.

Conclusion 1: Romantic partners should be more motivated than romantically uninvolved people to work to discuss, understand, and find a mutually acceptable position.

Conclusion 2: For some subset (A) of all relationships, happiness will be maximized through continuation of the relationship with compromise, while for another subset (B) this will not be true. Relationships in A will probably grow closer, while B relationships will probably grow apart, likely to the point of break-up.

[ubermammal]

Premise 4 is false:

My ex used to drag me along to clubs that she liked, from time to time. The music wasn't to my taste, and the environment was too noisy to have a conversation with anybody, so I didn't enjoy it. She didn't enjoy it either because she spent most of her night being concerned/frustrated that I didn't enjoy it as much as she did. After this happened a couple of times, we agreed that the simplest solution would be that I not go to these clubs with her, but simply be there for her at home afterwards; so, I was able to get on with productive things that interested me, and she was able to have a fun time with her friends and then come home tired to me for some TLC.

Also, conclusion 2 doesn't follow from the premises; you've omitted something that you're assuming, otherwise there'd be no reason to partition the set of all relationships like that.