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liveonearth

The Cat Chronicles

Feb 08, 2009 19:11

Shakti is sitting on the window sill in the east window of my office. The full moon is high and clouds are drifting past it, torturing the vampires. Suzanne is starting charcoal in a hibachi on the porch, and the pug beast is snorting in the hall.
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sno_angel1488 February 9 2009, 15:57:10 UTC

Your kitty's name is Shakti? I LOVE IT!

When people come and go out of my life, I look for the lessons they've taught me. And then when I realize they're gone, I honor that lesson and chalk it up to decluttering life. Sometimes you regret getting "rid of" something when you declutter, but it clears space for something (or someone) bigger and better to take its place.

neptunia67 February 9 2009, 16:56:40 UTC

I think I have learned that I only have room for so many friends in my life. They fall into two categories: Close friends (I have less than five, and you are one of them) and Other Friends (good people who I enjoy spending time with but who I would not call on in a time of need).

I have lost contact with a few people that I think of from time to time. I miss them, but I don't think we'd have anything to talk about. I've changed a lot. They probably have, too.

I'm OK with this.

liveonearth February 9 2009, 17:04:04 UTC

You sound so wise. I wish that I were better at letting go. Thank goodness I don't have to let go of you just yet!!

neptunia67 February 9 2009, 19:14:15 UTC

I'm grateful for that too!

I don't want to make it sound like it's been easy to let go. I just reached a point where I realized that friendships need to be mutually beneficial. I've tried to hang on to a few and it resulted in pain and/or frustration for me and probably the other person as well. Our paths took different directions and it was a struggle to stay on the same wavelength. Relationships shouldn't have to be so difficult.

I have one friendship that this is happening with right now. A good friend who I met when I was 21. Seems it has happened with the people I knew in my twenties. We weren't finished growing up yet, I guess.

liveonearth February 9 2009, 20:37:18 UTC

Yeah. I'm currently sad because a student at school who I thought was my friend began to treat me like dirt. I didn't understand why, and finally I asked. She wasn't ready to tell me. I dropped out of choir in part because my time commuting to the group with her was progressively less pleasant. I dropped her also from my LJ, after reading everything under my obesity tag and realizing that she probably did that too. I suspect her issue with me has to do with her obesity and my comments and thoughts about it---though I certainly never spoke of obesity with her (because I knew it was a touchy subject), I think she has conflicts with what I have written. I hope that she comes into her strength and stops pretending that she isn't obese, or that is isn't a problem. But that's not happening any time now, so I quit.

It still kinda hurts.