Suggestions?

[lisellecae]

Having a difficult time of it.  I knew I would but I always figure somehow I can ride it out.  But let's face it - I obsess about things - people etc.  When it is a thing I can figure out how to buy it or get it etc and then the obsession fades.  When it's people there isn't anything I can do.  I'm not good at just letting these obsessions go.

Comments

[bigevil]

I just try to face it as head-on as possible. I don't try to repress or ignore it. It might get me in a massive funk or worse, but the faster I can process the feelings, the faster I can get them behind me.

People are harder than things though, I agree. And as much as we can get over things, seeing them again will always stir old emotions. This I have accepted as a fact of life and can better deal with it.

Not much help I guess.

[lisellecae]

Nah - it helps. The good news - since I hadn't seen him in seven years before this - the odds I will see him again unless we both orchestrate it are slim. Running away to Buffalo helps immensely with that. That and he's no where I would go to visit on purpose. :)
But yeah - need to face the pain. Which in this case means stopping the fantasy and facing reality.

[bigevil]

This is a good start.

[lisellecae]

Although, I do fear facing my emotions too much. That way can lead to horrible depression.