Having self-respect is having everything.

[kuriku]

My depressive teacher lectured on Romeo & Juliet, emphasizing their young puppy love and how audiences enjoy the classic because they are reminded of something they can no longer feel. He said, that love, obsessive-compulsive love, is only for immature people and that once we mature, something inside of us die and we can never feel that way again

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[labile]

Hah... Your teacher must be speaking from personal experience, and definitely not general fact.

I'm 25 and I still kiss my husband in public.. I still hold his hand every chance I get, I still look forward to seeing him every moment I have with him, and I still can't help but hug him randomly just because he's him. I think my views on love have definitely changed as I've grown, but nothing died -- if anything, it grew. I have a different sort of understanding about it now than I ever did -- nothing is finite, or terrifying, or too fast, like I felt it was as a teenager.

[kuriku]

I don't think he meant that one cannot love after passing a certain age, but just that it's a different _kind_ of love. Not every couple loves each other in the same way, but he's saying that there's no way a thirty year old could love someone the way they loved when they were in their teens--And I find that believable. I think it's the maturity of age that brings wisdom and understanding and disallows us to feel entranced or obsessed the way we might be able to while younger.

...And what I'm saying is that I feel like I missed out on it completely. ;_;

[rainbower]

sometimes it feels pretty saddening to know that you're growing up and growing out of your 'childish ways'. Puppy love... it's a nice thought, just like happy fairytale endings are. Then you suddenly wake up and you're old and bitter, just like your teacher seems to be.

I hope I never end up like that although I know that fairytale endings aren't very realistic. I still don't think it's impossible to feel the same, i dunno, fire that you felt when you were younger. Hehe, of course, I'm probably not old enough to actually know how the 'old farts' feel :P

You think I plan ahead? I moved to a new country i one month, and I'm quite happy with this rather spontaneous act of madness. Why plan three years ahead? Just wait and see what happens. At least my plans quite often fail.

[kuriku]

My teacher isn't bitter o.O He's happily married with no kids (I guess >.>'). He's just got a funny way of thinking and he uses our English classes as a kind of "blog" to express his own views and opinions, if you know what I mean. I don't mind, since I'm not stupid enough to believe everything he saids and I enjoy the tidbits of info he gives us. This was just something that's been on my mind lately, because I have a friend who was obsessively 'into' this guy for a few weeks (ONLY!). I looked at her and wondered why I don't ever feel the same way