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[kadiddly]

I had a long conversation with Steve tonight. I invited him to a movie, and we met at the theater. I explained to him at that point that I did not want to go to the movie "just as friends" (as he had done with some other girl a couple nights ago) and this was his chance to back out. He did, but said he would like to talk instead. We walked over to

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[lianthe]

I wouldn't pay much heed to any of those "formulas" people give you about getting over people. I wouldn't listen to people who say, "Its been long, you should be over him by now!" I wouldn't listen to yourself when you start telling yourself that also.

You'll feel better when you feel better. You'll get over him when you get over him. And part of you probably will love him forever, even if its not him that you're in love with, even if its just the idea of him. I was only with Erik for a year, but it took me at least two to get over him, and I still haven't dated anyone new after three years. Though I realized after a while that it wasn't *him* I was mourning so much as the future I thought we were going to have together. I spent a lot of time beating myself up for not being over him yet... and it doesn't help. It just makes things worse.

I hope though, that your pain doesn't linger the way mine did. ;)