Yes, Seriously.
So, my mother broke her hip. Yep. It was just a hairline fracture, so no surgery, but also because it is a hip, they can't splint it or anything. Which, knowing my mom's inability to not do All The Things, she is a high risk of breaking it further. We are trying to keep her off her feet, but you know parents - you can't tell them anything!
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*very gentle hugs for mom*
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It has been! Idk what is going on, but this year has been a lot of bad. I'll be glad when 2015 is here.
Thank you for the suppot, darling.
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It is a terrible thing to break - we don't even realize how much we use our hips without knowing it.
It may be a little more inconvenient, but a huge part of recovery is attitude, and rehab centers just suck the life and vitality right out of you - especially older people.
I know that's true, but the doctors sent her home without a plan in place. No social work help or anything. I'm not okay with that. Attitude is a huge part of recovery though, that is true. While I still think being at home is the wrong move for my mom, giving her living conditions, I do think having my aunts there all the time and giving her that company is helping her mood a lot. And that's certainly a plus with my mom!
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Thank you, babe! I just feel *angry* at her about this and that seems unreasonable. I'm not angry she broke her hip, I'm angry she expects everyone to drop everything and do for her. But when I was typing it out, it felt like I was mad at her for breaking her hip and I felt bad about that. I just get so overprotective of my sister when people come to her with their hands out like that. Everyone back away from my sister!
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Thank you, darling! She is doing better. The doctor said she can start being home alone for an hour or two a day. Both of my parents being sick and elderly (and not living together, which doubles the errand runs) already puts a strain on my siblings, so when there is an added thing like a broken hip, I get into super protective mode, trying to make sure my siblings have time to do their own things and take care of themselves. Like my brother said to my mom, it won't do her any good if Sis and Brother burn themselves out and end up not being able to take care of anyone.
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family - yes Mother's can turn any situation on it's head and make you feel guilty for suggesting very normal, usually positive things to help her to heal.
parent's have a special gift for that and it's called "behaving like a spoilt brat" at a ridiculously old age ;-)
Glad to hear that she is improving steadily, I hope your stress level is improving steadily too.
take care,
Sarah
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Yeah, how do they do that?! It's like she wants *everything* and then she gets mad when we express that giving her everything is an unreasonable request and then we feel like, "Oh well, maybe we can give her everything, if that's what she wants." Omg.
Glad to hear that she is improving steadily, I hope your stress level is improving steadily too.
She is improving and my stress levels are also improving. Thank you! Now I just have the usual Holiday blahblahblah stress, lol.
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