*hugs* to you both and no just because the physical has stop does not mean the emotional has and i understand i grow up with drunk for a step-dad that would do or say the cruelest things and still does to this day that’s why i don't visit my mother as much as i would like….The good thing is your daughter has you. I didn’t meet my real father until 5 years ago after not seeing him for 25 years….Right now its hard because of her age but hopefully once she has been in a stable loving environment for a while she will work through a some of the things that have happen, an hopefully can one day forgive her mother….
Thank you...I hope she can forgive her mother, but at the same time I hope she does keep her distance. That entire side of her family just has an awful history of abuse and violence--I've been to a few Thanksgivings and Christmases and watched them beat each other up. It's just difficult right now, with her adjusting to life with us, and her little 14-month-old sister, and with another sibling on the way. Even with all of that, she will break down into tears when she has to visit her mother and can't wait to come back to my house...to HER house. I'm sure it doesn't help when her mother tells her that my house is NOT her house. I'm sure that puts that doubt and fear into her that she might not get to stay.
I know! It's a lot to take in, and it could have turned out sooooo much worse. I'm just glad things didn't get worse.
Tonight should be interesting. I haven't scheduled anything official, but we are supposed to meet with her mom to discuss the things that are going on. I can say that it was nice to not have to send her to her mother's house last night. T came over and diagnosed all of our car problems, and isn't it just sad that we all had more fun with that than watching TV?
I'm wondering if there's going to be weekend visitation. Maybe tonight's discussion will leave her mother so hurt that she never wants to see either of us again. Not that I want to hurt her, but if her being hurt helps protect my daughter then I'm all for it.
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I'm making sure that she will stay.
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Tonight should be interesting. I haven't scheduled anything official, but we are supposed to meet with her mom to discuss the things that are going on. I can say that it was nice to not have to send her to her mother's house last night. T came over and diagnosed all of our car problems, and isn't it just sad that we all had more fun with that than watching TV?
I'm wondering if there's going to be weekend visitation. Maybe tonight's discussion will leave her mother so hurt that she never wants to see either of us again. Not that I want to hurt her, but if her being hurt helps protect my daughter then I'm all for it.
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