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deponti

Crying..

May 08, 2006 14:54

I was listening to some lyrics and I found my eyes watering with emotion. I realized that I am culturally "allowed" to let my eyes water at the sight of a baby, a beautiful moon- or sun-rise, at the sound of a long-loved song, on reading a beautiful poem...but men aren't ( Read more... )

women, crying

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tariquesani May 8 2006, 09:37:30 UTC

Real men learn how to cry :)

a few words but so good.. deponti May 8 2006, 12:47:42 UTC

Tarique...I am really moved by those five words. They may not have a second line to rhyme or scan with, but they are poetry.

I know you only through Kalyan...but I would like to meet you one day.

(NO fear of my coming near Nagpur at this time of year. Corbett will be about the hottest I am going to be doing in May.)

Re: a few words but so good.. tariquesani May 8 2006, 12:55:52 UTC

I am flattered and I do have an honest second line which incidentally rhymes "they just need a *real woman* to make them try" - I live with one such woman :)

Yes, we should indeed meet - You are most welcome to come to Nagpur anytime you want to.

Re: a few words but so good.. deponti May 8 2006, 13:49:59 UTC

Maybe I should come over to Nagpur to meet Swati immediately!! I may be moved by the first line but my husband would love the second...

I also know you through Amogh, actually, didn't realize he has met you.

And *YOU* are always welcome home in Bangalore. Amogh and Kalyan will testify that I don't cook too badly!

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enigmaticash May 8 2006, 13:21:06 UTC

i have seen my dad in tears when i was crying ( becoz my project was not working :)or a friend hurt me )so i always made it a point not to cry in front of him.
but crying indeed helps to ligthen up the heart n mind. i ahve seen couple of my close guy friends crying too (when they were really hurt)

do send me... deponti May 8 2006, 13:51:35 UTC

..do send me an email at my email id with your name...I think we should try and meet in Ct. Do you live near Mystic?

Re: do send me... enigmaticash May 8 2006, 14:40:37 UTC

mailed u :)

Re: do send me... deponti May 8 2006, 15:19:35 UTC

...and I mailed you back! Ha ha! What fun this is!

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anonymous May 8 2006, 13:55:11 UTC

A research in the US suggests that Testorone inhibits the 'urge' to cry. Meaning that Testorone modifies the male brain in such a way that the sensitivity to emotion is reduced. Male lack of emotion may not be an act. This probably explians why small boys (Testorone yet to come )cry as much as small girls.

that's interesting deponti May 8 2006, 15:21:17 UTC

oh, I didn't know that.

But often, what I find is that the emotions are there, below the surface, unexpressed...I was talking to someone who said that music helped him through some dark periods in his life; he couldn't express his emotions or deal with them in any other way.

suzan_s May 8 2006, 14:26:50 UTC

And then we complain because men don't seem to understand what we need in relationships....if you aren't allowed to express or show emotion (rather suppress it) then how can you "relate"?

hmm... deponti May 8 2006, 15:22:11 UTC

yes, that how we become apples and oranges I suppose!

asakiyume May 8 2006, 15:46:00 UTC

That's one thing that's so contradictory in Japanese tradition--the stoic warrior ethic, but also deep feeling over the transience and sadness of all things.

If we don't have ways to express things--whether through tears or poetry or song--then I wonder if we can really properly feel them? I think when men--but women, too--are able to express their sorrow, it makes them able to truly feel it.