Probably wouldn't. Hetero as I am, I'm not wired for temporary relationships either. I don't want to get intimate with someone I don't already know well as a friend. I don't want to sacrifice myself. I can't.
And yet our culture considers me the failure or the abnormal one, while my friends who have dated and dated and then married and divorced are perfectly normal by comparison. I'd be thought of as healthier if I had done the same. I'm not saying anything is wrong with them; I feel nothing but sympathy. But something is wrong, I think, with our model of "healthy."
I think most of our culture's social systems are fucked up. But apparently, the masses like the way things are, so someone such as myself has no choice but to accept that rejecting those systems will mean a lot of personal dissatisfaction. But like I said in my post, I am not built to handle these systems nor do I have any natural desire to obtain the results of participating in that lifestyle. So for me, it's a lose-lose situation. Meh.
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Probably wouldn't. Hetero as I am, I'm not wired for temporary relationships either. I don't want to get intimate with someone I don't already know well as a friend. I don't want to sacrifice myself. I can't.
And yet our culture considers me the failure or the abnormal one, while my friends who have dated and dated and then married and divorced are perfectly normal by comparison. I'd be thought of as healthier if I had done the same. I'm not saying anything is wrong with them; I feel nothing but sympathy. But something is wrong, I think, with our model of "healthy."
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