Would someone please shoot the drama llama before it's too late?

[blithescribe]

I am so tried of my family's dynamic that I want to scream.  I have tried to change it and have succeeded up to a point, but only up to a point.

Long story short, once again my sister called trying to either get me to say I unquestioningly support a decision that isn't very well thought out or to pick a fight.  I could not do the former, so she

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[adriannevandal]

Is there any way of ending the convo with your sister before she tries to pick a fight with you? Or would that just make it worse? Consider that it's been at least 10 years since I've even SEEN your sister.

And do I even want to know what she was trying to get your support on?

::HUGS::

[blithescribe]

Often that does just make it worse. In hindsight, there was a good point to have said I have to get back to my laundry or something equally lame, but that point occurred a few seconds before I realized where the conversation was heading and then I had to switch in to damage control mode - "Calm down." "That isn't what I was saying", blah blah blah

[adriannevandal]

Ah... Reminds me of several conversations I had with my grandma, before I stopped talking to her. I hope things never get THAT BAD with you and your family.

And no point in agreeing with her but making suggestions that she and the hubby put a little more thought into things, before rushing off into the deep end, eh? Although if your family is trying to get them to slow down a bit, why are they getting pissed at you, for not supporting a half-baked plan?

[blithescribe]

It's the usual. If I upset K, I upset my parents becuase an upset K is a pretty darned unpleasant creature who will call my parents and whine and yell for days. So no matter what the reason, I am not to upset K...

...However as I found out when my Mom called back, this time thye are not actually upset at me, or at least they aren't now that they have thought about it and calmed down. I just happened to call right after they dealt with my sister at the height of her tantrum and they were understandably annoyed at the world at taht point. In the past, they still would have been mad at me at this point, but apparently things are changing which is nice.

[elizanikole]

Your dynamic with your sister (and parents) reminds me a lot of my Mom and her sister.

I usually don't discuss it because I'm afraid of how people view me as a result of their fighting. (It gets pretty bad.)

I'm really (and seriously) sorry that you have to go through this with her...with them. I hope the dynamic is changing for the absolute best. I really really do.

[blithescribe]

Thank you. I understand what you mean about worrying what others think. I always feel very childish when I talk about issues with my family...but then you are all so understanding and seem to have been there that I realize it's a prevalent problem.

[the_kestral]

Let me start off with a ~hug~

The drama with your sister... don't even know what to say. Fortunately my brother is not a drama queen, just a self-rightous brat most of the time. So at least he doesn't go running to our parents. Don't know what I would do in your shoes.

As for hanging up on your mom. You know what, there are times that is just what needs to happen before they stop for a moment out of shock and realize how they are behaving. Yes they are adults but sometimes they need the reality check that is brought about by that action. I have abruptly wrapped up a few converstations with my parents, and they know I don't do this out of rudeness but out of sheer frustration and the desire to avoid an argument that would go nowhere but would cause much pain.

Seems the reality check worked with your mom. Hope the dynamic continues to improve so you do not need to use that drastic measure again.

~hugs~

[blithescribe]

Thank you.

This was a big step forward today with the famlliy dynamic. I hope it ocntinues to improve too, or at least not backslide.

[midnightgambler]

"Pow, blam, thwak, boom..."

[midnightgambler]

Maybe I need to get a Batman icon...

[blithescribe]

Or at least a slayer of drama llamas icon! Thank you :)

[mortgaged]

you could always get a beer man icon