It's only been a few days

[athenaworth]

I've decided to make a Shutterfly album of him for Danny for Christmas. Going through the photos seems to help. We also saw our marriage counselor last night and he helped me with the guilt part of it. I think I'll always feel like I could've done something to help, but now at least I *think* I'm over the worry that he thought we abandoned him

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[sangrealmazimur]

*hug* I know it's hard. I'm glad you have someone to talk about it. It's weird because it happened right after getting married, but Ghost's passing really brought my Husband and I closer, and I am glad you have Danny to be there for you.

Can I make one small suggestion? I know it's unthinkable right now, and definitely take all the time you need...but, if you think you will ever want to get another cat (I think you said you have another one?), do so sooner than later.

We waiting 2 years to get another cat after Ghost passed. Our other cat Spirit (who was older than Ghost), was completely lost. She meowed all the time and acted up constantly. We were lost in our own grief that we couldn't bear to "replace" Ghost. Finally we felt that we had to for Spirit, not ourselves. We got Shadow and let me tell you that little cuddly boy I think filled the last hole our family had and really helped us all heal....even if it means putting up with fights and waking up with a face full of fur and a hairdo full of tangles thanks to kitten biscuits.

[athenaworth]

Danny told me night before last that my mom is getting me a kitten and he'll be here on Sunday. It was supposed to be a surprise, but I'm glad he told me so I could prepare myself. I don't know that I would ever be able to get one myself, so it's good that he's being given to me. I just hope Dude doesn't get his feelings hurt that his spot was filled so quickly (because he'll never be replaced).

[sangrealmazimur]

I think Dude would be happy to know that he didn't leave you alone, and that you have someone to care for as you cared for him.

You can never replace someone you love. You can just find comfort in a new love, while remembering and cherishing the old one.