amw

awkward musing on feminism

May 24, 2020 02:06

I'd like to talk about gender ( Read more... )

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sweetmeow May 24 2020, 03:02:17 UTC
Interesting post.

It is true that most guys wanting a sex change do it after puberty, so all the male secondary sex characteristics have already appeared: voice change, hair growth, etc. And, once they appear it's not as if you can make them go away. But - there is this reality show that I've watched on occasion -- "I am Jazz" (I think I've mentioned this to you once before), and she got female hormones prior to puberty, so, instead of going through male puberty, she went through female puberty - all under a doctor's care. Voice never changed, boobs appeared. Then a year or so ago (just prior to her going to college - she will be a freshman at Harvard) she had the surgery - had it done in NYC.

Jazz seems like a pretty together kid - but then who knows considering it's a realty show and who believes them?! 🙃 She had parents who saw her issue, believed her, took her seriously, and had the money (some probably from doing the reality show!) to pay for her treatment (hormones) and surgery.

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amw May 28 2020, 16:49:42 UTC
I'm not sure how i feel about letting kids take hormones pre-puberty. I don't have any problems letting kids express themselves however they want, and i think the younger that they learn gender is a social construct the better. But when it comes to medical intervention at such a young age... i dunno, i feel uncomfortable with it the same way i feel uncomfortable with kids being put onto psychiatric medication ( ... )

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dadi May 24 2020, 18:27:07 UTC
I have spent so many nights discussing these things with my T* friends in the 90ies. I was very close to a sex change myself back then, had been living as a man for more than a year, but in the end was too scared of all the horrible things I'd have to undergo, surgery-wise. I had a close friend who did it and her body was a wreck, the penis implant the most horrifying thing ever and s/he killed himself after two years. I had started to take testosterone but it messed with my head so much that I had to stop. I have kind of made my peace with being a woman who gets taken for a man now and then (also very deep voice and heavy bones) and after a lifetime of awful relationships I married a man who is somehow more woman than me even if he doesn't look it and never wanted to actually be one, but his emotional makeup is much more female than mine. I consider myself fortunate about that but I have hated being a woman more than everything in a professional context, all my life ( ... )

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amw May 28 2020, 17:22:48 UTC
FTM surgery is still pretty rough, or at least it was back in the late 90s and early 00s when i was in the "scene", so i can understand not wanting to take that step. I feel like there is some commentary to be made here on how a) all (?) sex reassignment surgeons are men, and b) people who were born with male privilege are able to get the surgery they need, whereas people who were born female are not ( ... )

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opakele May 24 2020, 20:29:27 UTC
Thanks for sharing this.

We all have the right to be treated respectfully.

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annaserene May 26 2020, 02:44:06 UTC
thanks for sharing your perspective!

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geminiwench May 26 2020, 17:41:36 UTC
I'm a cis straight woman,.... so, that's what I know from *experience ( ... )

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