LOVE
So, I don't think I approached this subject in my LJ before, so I thought I would create a post for ya'll to ponder. A few months ago, my roommate and I were pondering the meaning of love, what it means to be in love, and how the heck you know you're in love...Its a topic that I don't knoq much about. You see my roommate was in love with this guy
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1. Love can and does change over time - kinda like people. Sometimes the changes are good, other times they spell the end of a relationship. But even if it ends, that does not mean you were never "truly" in love.
2. Love is not a starvation economy (thank you, Ethical Slut). You don't run out of it, and you don't have only a limited amount to offer. Any limitations on love that you perceive are right between your own ears.
3. Love does NOT mean never saying you're sorry... it does not "excuse" anything (especially abuse). When love is used as a weapon, I say it's not love, or at least not any kind of love I want anything to do with. It might be obsession.
4. Love comes in many varieties, but they are not on a hierarchy - like, the love we feel for our pets is not somehow "less" than the love we feel for lovers; however, it may feel different or less intense at any given time. Love does not like to be ranked. It just is.
5. Being In Love is the feeling that most of us associate with love. It is overwhelming and all-encompassing and very thrilling. It also changes over time. I think at the beginnings of relationships, we are so infatuated that we cannot think of much else. Eventually, we let other things in, but that does not lessen our love.
How's that? :)
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