relationship
Just a quick update to my latest entry, I was able to talk everything out with roommate P.
I think it was thanks to us being so close that we were able to bare our souls and be completely honest with each other. We went through what, two or three talking "sessions" before I finally calmed down and regained my rationality. It was a quick process, I think it took me roughly a week to fully "let go" of roommate P. I'm more confident now that I can say I'm truly happy for her and her boyfriend.
The weigh on our shoulders were lifted off, too. Talking to each other feels ever so relaxing as it used to be. But I shall not let my guard down and be drown into the same sea again. Must stay alert on all times; that we're not going to be like we were in the old days.
Anyway, today roommate P jokingly match-made a sophomore with me. He said though, that he has not only a dirty mind, but also dirty heart and when roommate P said that I'm also the same (which is totally true; I may be physically virgin but mentally a bitch) he went on and said in English, "She deserves a better man."
I was, at first, rather flattered. But then when we got home, I remembered a book about two Japanese guys' coming out (Ryuta Yanase and Satoru Ito) and shared the part that got me the most to roommate P.
I think people who go off and say things like, "I only date people who are my type" will find it difficult to be in a (lasting) relationship. Relationship, as Satoru Ito would say, is about two people who, sanely, work out their way to be each other's ideal type through a good dose of communication, compromise, and care. And then the goal is to have these two people once again see people of their perceived "ideal type" and eventually laugh at them, saying "I've got everything I could ever ask for in this lover of mine". That's when you know you've fallen for someone so badly you'll take him/her for better or for worse!
I think it was thanks to us being so close that we were able to bare our souls and be completely honest with each other. We went through what, two or three talking "sessions" before I finally calmed down and regained my rationality. It was a quick process, I think it took me roughly a week to fully "let go" of roommate P. I'm more confident now that I can say I'm truly happy for her and her boyfriend.
The weigh on our shoulders were lifted off, too. Talking to each other feels ever so relaxing as it used to be. But I shall not let my guard down and be drown into the same sea again. Must stay alert on all times; that we're not going to be like we were in the old days.
Anyway, today roommate P jokingly match-made a sophomore with me. He said though, that he has not only a dirty mind, but also dirty heart and when roommate P said that I'm also the same (which is totally true; I may be physically virgin but mentally a bitch) he went on and said in English, "She deserves a better man."
I was, at first, rather flattered. But then when we got home, I remembered a book about two Japanese guys' coming out (Ryuta Yanase and Satoru Ito) and shared the part that got me the most to roommate P.
I think people who go off and say things like, "I only date people who are my type" will find it difficult to be in a (lasting) relationship. Relationship, as Satoru Ito would say, is about two people who, sanely, work out their way to be each other's ideal type through a good dose of communication, compromise, and care. And then the goal is to have these two people once again see people of their perceived "ideal type" and eventually laugh at them, saying "I've got everything I could ever ask for in this lover of mine". That's when you know you've fallen for someone so badly you'll take him/her for better or for worse!