why I suck at funerals and about death in general
So I tried to console a fellow gamer's character in the Firefly larp.
yeah, saying something about how it'll be okay even though your whole family has been murdered is apparently the opposite of consoling.
I can't even ROLEPLAY being sensitive about death.
So if you tell me somebody died and wonder why I put on a neutral face, nod, and say "geez, that sucks", just know I'm TRYING to be thoughtful and kind....and shutting up. If I say to much - well I'll say TO MUCH.
For example, about 10 or so years ago (when me and my mom were trying to get along) She called me up to tell me her aunt Whinny died. I laughed. yup. Well giggled and chuckled actually. I thought it was funny. See my stepmom's aunt had just died as well. 2 aunts dieing. 1 from each of my mom's. What a coincidence! It was funny! Nobody else thought it was though. :( So I learned that laughing isn't a good response to news of death. I just chuckle on the inside now.
But honestly I think laughing about it is a fear response for me.....cuz death scares the shit outta me too.
yeah, saying something about how it'll be okay even though your whole family has been murdered is apparently the opposite of consoling.
I can't even ROLEPLAY being sensitive about death.
So if you tell me somebody died and wonder why I put on a neutral face, nod, and say "geez, that sucks", just know I'm TRYING to be thoughtful and kind....and shutting up. If I say to much - well I'll say TO MUCH.
For example, about 10 or so years ago (when me and my mom were trying to get along) She called me up to tell me her aunt Whinny died. I laughed. yup. Well giggled and chuckled actually. I thought it was funny. See my stepmom's aunt had just died as well. 2 aunts dieing. 1 from each of my mom's. What a coincidence! It was funny! Nobody else thought it was though. :( So I learned that laughing isn't a good response to news of death. I just chuckle on the inside now.
But honestly I think laughing about it is a fear response for me.....cuz death scares the shit outta me too.