personality
Am I reserved?
I got invited to hang out at Harry Browne's with people by the very first dude I met on OKCupid (and the only one I've remotely stayed in contact with, because while I'm not that attracted to him I do like hanging out with him and his friends) and at one point we were talking about personalities and impressions of people and he told me that I seemed reserved- not cold or unfriendly, but reserved. Which is news to me, because I've had other people tell me that I'm the opposite, that I'm the person who jumps into things and gets stuff started. Have I changed since high school/beginning of college, or is it that this dude doesn't know me that well, or (the likeliest option) that he hasn't seen me in my element/among my friends/more relaxed?
I guess I've been noticing more and more that I'm actually sort of shy around new people- like, I wait for them to approach me. I don't know if I've always been like this and living and working in a country where I was learning the language on the fly just made me more aware of my shrinking-violet nature, or if I was very outgoing before and then Tanzania gave me some sort of weird PTSD about approaching people. I mean, once the ice is broken I'm fine, but it's that initial breaking-in that makes me nervous.
I guess I also only tell a few people all of my feelings. My feelings are very important to me and I don't necessarily want everyone to know all of them...
I got invited to hang out at Harry Browne's with people by the very first dude I met on OKCupid (and the only one I've remotely stayed in contact with, because while I'm not that attracted to him I do like hanging out with him and his friends) and at one point we were talking about personalities and impressions of people and he told me that I seemed reserved- not cold or unfriendly, but reserved. Which is news to me, because I've had other people tell me that I'm the opposite, that I'm the person who jumps into things and gets stuff started. Have I changed since high school/beginning of college, or is it that this dude doesn't know me that well, or (the likeliest option) that he hasn't seen me in my element/among my friends/more relaxed?
I guess I've been noticing more and more that I'm actually sort of shy around new people- like, I wait for them to approach me. I don't know if I've always been like this and living and working in a country where I was learning the language on the fly just made me more aware of my shrinking-violet nature, or if I was very outgoing before and then Tanzania gave me some sort of weird PTSD about approaching people. I mean, once the ice is broken I'm fine, but it's that initial breaking-in that makes me nervous.
I guess I also only tell a few people all of my feelings. My feelings are very important to me and I don't necessarily want everyone to know all of them...