Friends page overload

[zorac]

Gah. Things are getting to the point where my friends page regularly picks up dozens of posts in just a few hours and keeping up with them all is just draining far too much of my time. Something has to change, as it means that other things are not getting done. Two options present themselves: firstly, I could just defriend a whole bunch of people

Comments

[zorac]

Darn. Rumbled.

[dancingrain]

I guess trimming the list is most honest, but as I'm a filters-and-protected-posts gal myself, it's what I tend to rec to others.

Perhaps try what Tine does and make an announcement "I'm trimming; if you're trimmed and want to be able to read my friends locked posts, reply here and I'll add you but probably not continue to follow your journal, no hard feelings, blah blah."

[zorac]

*nods* That makes a fair amount of sense - the responses seem to be fairly evenly split thus far.

[kazzik]

In all honesty I'd say you should defriend the people you know you're not going to read, and use filters for the rest.

But not me because I'm special.

Also I note with some amusement that you've voted for the 'I don't care what you do to them, just don't defriend me!' option. Bless ;)

[zorac]

Well, it seems that so far, almost none of the people who would prefer to be defriended are in danger of that happening. Of those on my cull list who have expressed an opinion, the preference seems to be for filtering.

I voted so as to more easily see the result, and that just seemed the most fitting response...

[imc]

1. Do you often talk (or answer back) to yourself like that?
   
2. What's the point of friending yourself anyway?
   
3. Use filters - I do, and eventually when I get around to fiddling with my LJ style I'll make the `Friends view' link point to my filtered version by default. (This may bring the shocking realisation for some that I don't actually read their journal despite having them on my friends list, which is mainly because I don't mind them reading my protected entries.). (Oh, and another thing I'll do is put an `update journal' link at the top of my journal. But that's not relevant right now.)
   

[zorac]

1. I try not to do it too often. At least in public - some people seem to think it a sign of madness (not that I've ever made any claim on sanity).
   
2. Two reasons: Firstly, for various reasons I like my own entries to appear on my friends page. Secondly, so that the mutual-friends highlighting on userinfo pages does so for me as well as my friends.
   
3. Are you aware that if you have a friends group called 'Default View', that filter will do exactly what its name suggests? And I've just been thinking that an 'update journal' link would be handy - some S2 hacking this eveniong, methinks.
   

Default View

[imc]

No, I didn't know that. Is it documented?

Re: Default View

[zorac]

It is mentioned in the FAQ, although I'm not sure if that's where I found out about it (probably in lj_nifty).

http://www.livejournal.com/support/faqbrowse.bml?faqid=102

[chinawolf]

*cough* I defriended quite a few people recently. There are a few people I can't unfriend while staying (fandom-)pc, but once I catch myself skimming every single entry of a person (usually more than five a day), I think it's ok to defriend them. But I always give them the option of an immediate re-friending if they tell me they want to keep reading my protected posts. I post most of my posts to specific friends groups, so I won't have random 'friends' reading my personal stuff anyway. I also have one friends group comprised of all people whose posts I do not want to miss even if I have zero time (about twenty or so), or which I read while I'm on holiday.

I also sometimes defriend people who I like to read posts from, but whom I'm not really close to - if I really need to skim my list to cram in new people, or in the recent case, a new fandom. I've found that I can't cope with more than a maximum of about a hundred people on my list. (So, uhm, sorry about unfriending you recently!)

[zorac]

I'm going with the filter those who want it, defriend those who don't approach. Seems the easiest way. And, yes, most of my "friends only" posts are in fact filtered to some smaller group anyway.