Has it really been 12 weeks since I last posted?

Jul 26, 2008 22:53

It has gotten to the point where I haven't posted in so long that I should be assumed dead. That would be less shameful if I didn't log on to livejournal almost daily and then bitch to myself when no one else has written anything. So what has been going on? I am a little tiny bit more tan, but really haven't been to the beach as much as I always mean to (though my car is full of sand anyway). Then again, I've already been to the beach more this summer than any of the summer since I graduated college, so that is a good thing. I'm still bookkeeping at the dock. Daniel has opened a restaurant with his girlfriend Jen--she's the chef and he's in charge of the front of the house (http://montaukfishbar.com/). Scott is working there in the kitchen as well as at the lighthouse. I recommend that people come and visit me--only a train ride away from the city!
I'm getting excited/nervous about moving to Brooklyn. The nervousness is mostly about going to a new location and not knowing what to expect or exactly what the culture is like, especially knowing that it will be for three years. The excitement is about everything else--being somewhere new, access to all kinds of unique shops and restaurants, learning the mass transit system, getting to live completely alone with Scott for the first time ever, gathering all our stuff into one place (even if part of it goes right back to storage), and in general starting something new. It will be nice to be able to leave the island so quickly--it takes me three (plus) hours just to get off LI from Montauk. It will be even nicer not to be living with parents.
I remember reading, in one of those homeschool courtship type articles, about an engaged couple leaving with each other's families before marriage. It was recommended so as to acquaint the individuals with the histories and former lifestyles of their future spouses. At the time I remember thinking that both families would have to be pretty alternative (i.e. very homeschooled) to agree to this sort of thing. Yet it seems like Scott and I have done it, only as a couple, after marriage. (Let me note that living with family definitely gets in the way of certain, shall we say, marital impulses...) I am not sure if that has lead each of us to understand the other better, but we are both very well acquainted with each other's family by now (perhaps more than we wanted to be).
I definitely see a lot of traits in Scott that I can now say, "oh, you get this habit from your dad" or whatever. At the same time, I wonder if I noticed more quirks more quickly than I would have. I wonder if some of my oddities are more irritating having living with so many people who share them. It is interesting to see how ideas, habits, and ways of living stem from your family--and how the other person has differed from them. It has definitely brought up a lot of "don't expect me to be like that" in terms of how relationships work (to be fair, that has been mostly me, since Scott's mom is a *much* nicer person than I am). Our respective families certainly know us a lot better, both individually and as a couple. That's probably a good thing, since we really got serious as a couple in Santa Fe, a long way from home. At the same time, we're a lot more immeshed into extended family stuff, which is one of the reasons I'm looking forward to moving on and really creating our own identities a little more separated from them.
I guess time will tell if this was a good experiment or not. Poor Scott didn't know what he was getting into marrying a homeschooler!
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