War Journal Entry number 1001 - Happy Towel Day
We chose titanium for our wedding bands, it was very appropriate.
I find the metaphor of “the old ball and chain” to be sad as hell. To liken one's partner to being shackled to a burdensome weight is just depressing. And it's a disturbingly common phrase, even showing up in children's cartoons. That's scary, before people even really understand relationships they are being shown that wives equate to imprisonment because the stories are so predominantly shown from a hetero-normative male perspective. While it seems most people that actually say it these days are doing it as a joke the facts are that it's not funny (even when being used in an “ironic” way since it's done by people that don't understand irony or humor), and the attitude that gave rise to it is all too real. At its heart is a negative view regarding the responsibility and consideration necessary in healthy relationships.
If I was going to say that some equivalent sort of inanimate object symbolized Becca it would be a life jacket. She has kept me afloat when I was too exhausted to tread water. But really I tend to think of her as a star. She shines brightly, gives off warmth, is very attractive, and is the source of my life.
So what does this have to do with our titanium rings? Is it just that they are non-traditional? Ask to see them the next time you are hanging out with us. They are very strong yet amazingly light, and that's what our relationship feels like.
I find the metaphor of “the old ball and chain” to be sad as hell. To liken one's partner to being shackled to a burdensome weight is just depressing. And it's a disturbingly common phrase, even showing up in children's cartoons. That's scary, before people even really understand relationships they are being shown that wives equate to imprisonment because the stories are so predominantly shown from a hetero-normative male perspective. While it seems most people that actually say it these days are doing it as a joke the facts are that it's not funny (even when being used in an “ironic” way since it's done by people that don't understand irony or humor), and the attitude that gave rise to it is all too real. At its heart is a negative view regarding the responsibility and consideration necessary in healthy relationships.
If I was going to say that some equivalent sort of inanimate object symbolized Becca it would be a life jacket. She has kept me afloat when I was too exhausted to tread water. But really I tend to think of her as a star. She shines brightly, gives off warmth, is very attractive, and is the source of my life.
So what does this have to do with our titanium rings? Is it just that they are non-traditional? Ask to see them the next time you are hanging out with us. They are very strong yet amazingly light, and that's what our relationship feels like.