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zevhonith

Confessions post by request

Mar 12, 2008 11:26

This is by far the easiest of the suggestions I've gotten so far, so I'll put it up now while I mull over some of the other subjects ( Read more... )

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anonymous March 12 2008, 19:40:46 UTC

I have lost patience with almost everyone (85% or so) I used to call friends.

zevhonith March 12 2008, 19:44:58 UTC

Yeesh - that's rough, I struggle with that myself a lot. I wonder if it's a natural consequence of getting older - my social circle and my social needs in general seem to have shrunk, and as that happens more and more people end up left outside that.

I have to remind myself, I used to have parties with 60+ people there - and that's a LOT of people to call friends. I just think the standards are looser when you're younger. Not as much time to waste, maybe, the older you get, or maybe you just have fewer commonalities with people as your life gets more focused.

What do you think? Where do you think it comes from?

wyrdling March 13 2008, 19:13:56 UTC

i've been moving in the opposite direction. expanding rather than contracting. but i hit nil several times in my life. mostly before age 15, but there's been some geographic leaps that have put me right back there (as far as having meaningful human contact went.)

i think. well, for me, at least, it's about boundaries. it's been difficult to learn to trust people, whereas i think your experience is a bit different.

but the biggest boundary is time. the older we get the more we realize how little we have, i think.

zevhonith March 13 2008, 20:32:44 UTC

I think I started out trusting people and later realized I should limit that somewhat.

I think you're absolutely right, it is about time. For me, I think it means that I'm extremely picky about who I want to share my time with.

anonymous March 12 2008, 20:30:50 UTC

Hunh. I've been feeling exactly the same way.

I actually have more friends in higher concentrations in several places I don't live. :(

zevhonith March 12 2008, 20:35:42 UTC

LOL, this is definitely true for me, but I blame it on the fact that my friend-making patterns have changed since I moved.

anonymous March 12 2008, 20:55:02 UTC

I've been where I am for 20 years.

zevhonith March 12 2008, 21:13:25 UTC

:( And this is not something you're happy about, I take it? (Not the being somewhere for 20 years, but the having-fewer-friends.)

anonymous March 12 2008, 21:51:35 UTC

I would have to agree that I'm not all that pleased about it.

zevhonith March 12 2008, 22:01:41 UTC

I wish I had useful advice. :( I have to force myself into many social situations because I know that friends = happy, but it's still not easy for me.

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