there are a few things that I have found disturbing with girls ever since high school and I found an article on the matter that pretty much makes you think
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I believe one of the biggest indicator of nice guy vs asshole-in-nice-guy's-clothing is this:
Nice guy: "It's hard to see her getting hurt by that guy. Hopefully she'll figure things out and find someone who treats her well and is a good fit for her interests and personality."
Faux nice guy: "She should drop that guy and get with me, because I'll treat her right."
One is genuinely interested in seeing their friend end up with someone who is a good match, even if that isn't them. They aren't friends with the girl as a bid to eventually get in her pants, they're actually just friends with her.
The other thinks that the only solution is that she dump her current guy and get with them, regardless of the girl's feelings/needs/desires. They don't want to accept that despite being 'nice', they might not be a good relationship match.
As far as assholes go, I've found most women date them when they don't really want something long term and serious. What better way to accomplish that than picking someone who is bound to eventually destroy the relationship after a roller coaster ride of challenges and drama? Unfortunately, some women get caught up too long with the asshole choice, and end up either getting too emotionally attached/co-dependent, or pregnant.
Then again, some girls end up with assholes because it's a good match. And no matter how big of a jerk the girl is, there's almost always a guy around her saying how misunderstood and wonderful she is (kind of the reverse of the 'nice girl pining over asshole' situation).
This is turning out to be a really interesting conversation, would you mind if I added you as a friend? You seem like such a nice guy... *ducks*
Nice guy: "It's hard to see her getting hurt by that guy. Hopefully she'll figure things out and find someone who treats her well and is a good fit for her interests and personality."
Faux nice guy: "She should drop that guy and get with me, because I'll treat her right."
One is genuinely interested in seeing their friend end up with someone who is a good match, even if that isn't them. They aren't friends with the girl as a bid to eventually get in her pants, they're actually just friends with her.
The other thinks that the only solution is that she dump her current guy and get with them, regardless of the girl's feelings/needs/desires. They don't want to accept that despite being 'nice', they might not be a good relationship match.
As far as assholes go, I've found most women date them when they don't really want something long term and serious. What better way to accomplish that than picking someone who is bound to eventually destroy the relationship after a roller coaster ride of challenges and drama? Unfortunately, some women get caught up too long with the asshole choice, and end up either getting too emotionally attached/co-dependent, or pregnant.
Then again, some girls end up with assholes because it's a good match. And no matter how big of a jerk the girl is, there's almost always a guy around her saying how misunderstood and wonderful she is (kind of the reverse of the 'nice girl pining over asshole' situation).
This is turning out to be a really interesting conversation, would you mind if I added you as a friend? You seem like such a nice guy... *ducks*
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