That's about enough of that
I love people, I do. I especially love my friends and hate to see them unhappy. But if you make choices that keep you mired in problems, when you have opportunities available to fix your life, then I have no sympathy for you. Sorry, there are just too many people out there who really need help and WANT it--people who are stuck in situations that really suck, and who are trying their damndest to get out of them, no matter the challenges.
So, if you have the capability of doing something about your problems, and for whatever reason are choosing not to act, don't come complaining to me. If you bitch and moan and shoot down or ignore every suggestion on how to improve your life, while contributing no suggestions of your own, don't expect me to stick around and listen while you whine about the same damn thing for the 37th time in a row, acting like no one ever offered to help you/everyone hates you/you can't trust anyone/you have no money/you have no where to live/no friends/whatever.
Sometimes life sucks, that's true. But when people who DO care offer to help, it is rude to not even acknowlege the offer. Even if you don't want to take it, even if you're scared to death of change & would prefer to be miserable rather than do something different with your life, at least tell the person 'no thank you'. Otherwise you run the risk of alienating everyone, and then you might REALLY know what it's like to be alone.
So if you wonder why I'm not reassuring, consoling or enabling you in identifying with your status as a victim/ fuck up/ex/outcast/unemployed/chronically situationally depressed pessimist, it's because I'll be busy helping people who actually WANT to be healthy and happy.
So, if you have the capability of doing something about your problems, and for whatever reason are choosing not to act, don't come complaining to me. If you bitch and moan and shoot down or ignore every suggestion on how to improve your life, while contributing no suggestions of your own, don't expect me to stick around and listen while you whine about the same damn thing for the 37th time in a row, acting like no one ever offered to help you/everyone hates you/you can't trust anyone/you have no money/you have no where to live/no friends/whatever.
Sometimes life sucks, that's true. But when people who DO care offer to help, it is rude to not even acknowlege the offer. Even if you don't want to take it, even if you're scared to death of change & would prefer to be miserable rather than do something different with your life, at least tell the person 'no thank you'. Otherwise you run the risk of alienating everyone, and then you might REALLY know what it's like to be alone.
So if you wonder why I'm not reassuring, consoling or enabling you in identifying with your status as a victim/ fuck up/ex/outcast/unemployed/chronically situationally depressed pessimist, it's because I'll be busy helping people who actually WANT to be healthy and happy.