Hug Embargo
Hoy guys.
After some more recent stuff (and needing to have Sexual Harrassment Panda visit my Christmas), I'm aware that many people (and here I'm talking about the populace at large) are taking hugging for granted. They're starting to think that hugs are a right instead of realising that hugs are a privilege.
Now, most of you will know that I'm a pretty damned affectionate person. I'm generally one of the first people to go to for hugs when you're feeling down, but over the last year or so, I've really not been enjoying hugs so much. Too many people have been taking advantage of the hugs, and it's making me feel GROSS giving them out.
So I'm not going to anymore.
Don't take it personally, and while there may be times that I will hug, the general rule is "if Zadie is NOT initiating the hug, don't try it" because it has gotten to the point that when people are going the hug with me and I don't really want it, I want to push the other person away, which I've been stifling, but I just can't do that anymore. I know that is pretty harsh, so I'd prefer to avoid it. I just need to 'reclaim' my hugs, and not feel like people are taking advantage of them and therefore me.
And yes, this means that there will be a large number of people who I used to hug, who I just won't hug anymore. It's not that I don't like you, it's just that I feel like too many people have been getting right in my space, and I need to just get that back.
After some more recent stuff (and needing to have Sexual Harrassment Panda visit my Christmas), I'm aware that many people (and here I'm talking about the populace at large) are taking hugging for granted. They're starting to think that hugs are a right instead of realising that hugs are a privilege.
Now, most of you will know that I'm a pretty damned affectionate person. I'm generally one of the first people to go to for hugs when you're feeling down, but over the last year or so, I've really not been enjoying hugs so much. Too many people have been taking advantage of the hugs, and it's making me feel GROSS giving them out.
So I'm not going to anymore.
Don't take it personally, and while there may be times that I will hug, the general rule is "if Zadie is NOT initiating the hug, don't try it" because it has gotten to the point that when people are going the hug with me and I don't really want it, I want to push the other person away, which I've been stifling, but I just can't do that anymore. I know that is pretty harsh, so I'd prefer to avoid it. I just need to 'reclaim' my hugs, and not feel like people are taking advantage of them and therefore me.
And yes, this means that there will be a large number of people who I used to hug, who I just won't hug anymore. It's not that I don't like you, it's just that I feel like too many people have been getting right in my space, and I need to just get that back.