Relationships: Four Tenents of Belief

[zebediah]

Fodder for conversation

Comments

[tikva]

Put me down for all four of those, particularly 1 and 4. And it's only been since getting together with jadasc (ZOMG SIX YEARS TOMORROW!) that I realyl started getting a handle on 2.

[emp42ress]

I would certainly agree with all those, putting the most stress on 1 and 3 (Different can be wrong, it's just that being different is not the thing that makes it wrong).

[ladysprite]

I agree with all of them, and I'm monogamous. As far as I can tell, they're all good guidelines for just about any relationship....

[rigel]

Communication is Superior to Assumption.

Oh, Hell yes.

"Different" is not "Wrong"

The most yes of all the yeses, provided you add the clarification that emp42ress gave. Different is not inherently wrong.

A working practicality, even if messy, is superior to a nonfunctional ideal.

I think so? I need examples.

Love is necessary...but not sufficient.

Yes.

Incidentally . . . how do the ways in which I worry you intersect with #2?

[rigel]

Also? I think it's tenet.

[sleepsong]

Yeah. Every dictionary definition I've gotten for "tenent" has been "n. a tenet."

[lionofgod]

Those all sound like tenets I can agree with, although I'm a little less clear on what 3 means. "It's better to compromise and get on with life than it is to try to be perfect about some particular aspect and thereby screw up"? I've certainly heard of that applying to things like chore-splitting; the tracking and inherent semi-accusations in getting things to a 50-50 split in the name of ideal load-sharing can cause the rest of the relationship to founder if you're not *really* good about separating blame and mistrust out

[sprrwhwk]

I think #3 might make more sense (or at least sound more familiar :-) if it was phrased as "The perfect is the enemy of the good."

I'm pretty sure I agree with all four points above.