Bara no Nai Hanaya (The Flower Shop Without Roses)
Sooo yeah, a few days ago I just finished watching this J-Dorama, called Bara no Nai Hanaya. It’s a rather old dorama (year 2008 if I’m not mistaken), but my friend just recommend me recently. She insisted that I MUST watch it, she said “it’s a slice of life story and I bet you’ll like it! After all, I knew this kind of story is your favorite!”
Since I’m bored and need an excuse to procrastinate, I decided to watch it. And.. heck, they’re right. The dorama was so beautiful. It’s beyond words. I love it VERY much. Maybe it’s just because the story simply suited my taste. I cried many times, but it’s not because the story was sad. It’s because of the pureness and the value they have. The family bond between the main character (Eiji) and his daughter (Shizuku) was simply beautiful and pure and cute. And I learned SO MUCH from there. I personally like this part when Eiji slapped Shizuku because she didn’t want to do what Eiji told her (which Eiji insisted that it was for Shizuku’s happiness). And then Shizuku ran away and Eiji got all complicated and talked to his neighbor/friend (Master):
“I slapped Shizuku. I shouted at her. I’m the worst.”
“You’re doing this for her own good, right? It’s what they call a loving smack.”
“It’s not. It doesn’t matter what reason you have; parents hitting their child.. it’s unforgiveable. Discipline.. Loving smack.. those are just convenient excuse. ‘The child will behave after this and understand how their parents feel’.. there’s no such thing. Even if that’s how you see it, that’s only because the child is scared and behaving themselves because of that. Kids are not stupid! Because they’re scared of their parents, they just act like they are listening. It doesn’t mean that they agree with what their parents say. If you really love your child, you just have to talk to them. And if they still don’t get it, you just have to talk to them again. You just have to talk to them for as many times as it takes them to understand. Such infinite patience is what true love is about. But I got impatient. Impatience won over love. And yet I…”
It was so touching. I CRIED so hard when watched that part. I thought, hey, that was true. I remembered how I was so obedient to my parents in the past… and it’s not because I’m agree with them. It was just because I was scared that they’ll yell at me if I didn’t obey them.
BUT, the part that I like VERY MUCH is what Master had said after that…
“Stop it. You’re human too. Parents are human too. No one’s perfect. When you mess things up, just apologize later. Even if you look bad, you just have to apologize to her. Isn’t it also good to show her your flaws sometimes? That might also be what education is about too.”
And I CRIED HARDER. It just made me realize how it’s difficult to be a parent. It’s so complicated and you’ve a duty to educate your child. A very hard duty. Parents may sometimes do mistakes, but you can solve it just with an apologize. It’s as simple as that. The matter is, sometimes parents have an ego to not apologize to their child (because well, parents wants to look decent and capable in front of their child). So, I conclude that a good parents is a parents who have a courage to admit that they’re wrong when they did wrong. A parents who have a courage to apologize.
But it doesn’t mean that we can judge our parents. We often saw something just with our own perspective; that’s why there’s so many kids complain about their parents. I often complained too, but now, when I could see a little bit wider, I realized that hey, you didn’t know what pain they feel when you shouted at them. We often just think that it’s us who are in pain, but if we tried to be on their shoes… maybe actually they’re more pained than us. Be positive! We could complain just because we didn’t know how hard is it to be a parents. So, I’ll not complain even if they forbid me with anything. Even though I not agreed with their decision, I’ll not yell at them. I will, at least, protect their feelings from being hurt.
Back to this show, aside from the family matters, like other dorama, it has a romance too. But again, what I like from their romance was, it’s not corny or cheesy. It was just simply pure. Eiji and the female lead (Mio) never said that they were in love with each other, but it showed through their act. I like it how they treat love as a very delicate and important matters. They not sell out the word of ‘love’. And just when they’re sure with their feelings, they confessed to each other in the end of episode. It was kinda cliché but I’ve to admit that IT WAS SO BEAUTIFUL. I’m a type of person who thinks that love is not the only matters in our life (that’s why a full romance story is not my favorite, although I still like it, of course!), but this particular scene just made me got all teary and weeping in fluffiness, huhuhu
Other than those values that you could learn, the story has a very good twist and drama and will make you shocked when the secret revealed one by one. The cinematography was very good too! They capture the moments perfectly.
LOL I think I talked too much about this dorama. I just often got carried away if I talking about something I like very much lol. It may an old dorama and maybe I’m the one who’s late to watch this, lmao, but, the conclusion is: if you’re not watching it yet and you like a meaningful story, YOU MUST WATCH IT. And then you will realize that, quoting Eiji’s word, “no matter what, life is beautiful”
Since I’m bored and need an excuse to procrastinate, I decided to watch it. And.. heck, they’re right. The dorama was so beautiful. It’s beyond words. I love it VERY much. Maybe it’s just because the story simply suited my taste. I cried many times, but it’s not because the story was sad. It’s because of the pureness and the value they have. The family bond between the main character (Eiji) and his daughter (Shizuku) was simply beautiful and pure and cute. And I learned SO MUCH from there. I personally like this part when Eiji slapped Shizuku because she didn’t want to do what Eiji told her (which Eiji insisted that it was for Shizuku’s happiness). And then Shizuku ran away and Eiji got all complicated and talked to his neighbor/friend (Master):
“I slapped Shizuku. I shouted at her. I’m the worst.”
“You’re doing this for her own good, right? It’s what they call a loving smack.”
“It’s not. It doesn’t matter what reason you have; parents hitting their child.. it’s unforgiveable. Discipline.. Loving smack.. those are just convenient excuse. ‘The child will behave after this and understand how their parents feel’.. there’s no such thing. Even if that’s how you see it, that’s only because the child is scared and behaving themselves because of that. Kids are not stupid! Because they’re scared of their parents, they just act like they are listening. It doesn’t mean that they agree with what their parents say. If you really love your child, you just have to talk to them. And if they still don’t get it, you just have to talk to them again. You just have to talk to them for as many times as it takes them to understand. Such infinite patience is what true love is about. But I got impatient. Impatience won over love. And yet I…”
It was so touching. I CRIED so hard when watched that part. I thought, hey, that was true. I remembered how I was so obedient to my parents in the past… and it’s not because I’m agree with them. It was just because I was scared that they’ll yell at me if I didn’t obey them.
BUT, the part that I like VERY MUCH is what Master had said after that…
“Stop it. You’re human too. Parents are human too. No one’s perfect. When you mess things up, just apologize later. Even if you look bad, you just have to apologize to her. Isn’t it also good to show her your flaws sometimes? That might also be what education is about too.”
And I CRIED HARDER. It just made me realize how it’s difficult to be a parent. It’s so complicated and you’ve a duty to educate your child. A very hard duty. Parents may sometimes do mistakes, but you can solve it just with an apologize. It’s as simple as that. The matter is, sometimes parents have an ego to not apologize to their child (because well, parents wants to look decent and capable in front of their child). So, I conclude that a good parents is a parents who have a courage to admit that they’re wrong when they did wrong. A parents who have a courage to apologize.
But it doesn’t mean that we can judge our parents. We often saw something just with our own perspective; that’s why there’s so many kids complain about their parents. I often complained too, but now, when I could see a little bit wider, I realized that hey, you didn’t know what pain they feel when you shouted at them. We often just think that it’s us who are in pain, but if we tried to be on their shoes… maybe actually they’re more pained than us. Be positive! We could complain just because we didn’t know how hard is it to be a parents. So, I’ll not complain even if they forbid me with anything. Even though I not agreed with their decision, I’ll not yell at them. I will, at least, protect their feelings from being hurt.
Back to this show, aside from the family matters, like other dorama, it has a romance too. But again, what I like from their romance was, it’s not corny or cheesy. It was just simply pure. Eiji and the female lead (Mio) never said that they were in love with each other, but it showed through their act. I like it how they treat love as a very delicate and important matters. They not sell out the word of ‘love’. And just when they’re sure with their feelings, they confessed to each other in the end of episode. It was kinda cliché but I’ve to admit that IT WAS SO BEAUTIFUL. I’m a type of person who thinks that love is not the only matters in our life (that’s why a full romance story is not my favorite, although I still like it, of course!), but this particular scene just made me got all teary and weeping in fluffiness, huhuhu
Other than those values that you could learn, the story has a very good twist and drama and will make you shocked when the secret revealed one by one. The cinematography was very good too! They capture the moments perfectly.
LOL I think I talked too much about this dorama. I just often got carried away if I talking about something I like very much lol. It may an old dorama and maybe I’m the one who’s late to watch this, lmao, but, the conclusion is: if you’re not watching it yet and you like a meaningful story, YOU MUST WATCH IT. And then you will realize that, quoting Eiji’s word, “no matter what, life is beautiful”