You've got awhile to think about it, considering we're trapped on an island. Use this time to strategize about how to convince them you're still the best man for the job. While it's good to mentally prepare yourself for a less than ideal situation, they just might surprise you. Parents can be cool when you least expect them to. My mom didn't want me to get a piercing, but once I had it, she didn't try to rip it out of my face. When she saw I was serious about keeping it, she went out and bought seven tubes of antibiotic. I know it's different, but just an example.
They might not like the situation, but use the strength you got from the way they raised you to convince them. Don't give up on it (unless you'd rather give up your lover;t his advice is assuming that you wouldn't dump him to obey your parents wishes. If you would, then you don't need my advice to succeed). If it takes longer to convince them than you'd like, maybe work at a rival business, or start your own. That way they can get jealous -- a little motivation. You can save the day if your brother starts to sink the ship.
Not everyone has been raised in the same circumstances as you, or has the same ambition, so you can't really expect them to understand your feelings. Hell, I can't really understand your feelings either. But if they're not willing to try and put themselves in your shoes, just change the subject. Or get revenge if you're particularly affronted.
I know we are sheltered on the island but I still regularly communicate with my family and every time it gets more difficult to hide the fact I have somebody special in my life. Somebody asked if it wasn't rude to him and I haven't been able to find an answer yet. I don't feel ashamed of being with him here, despite having to overcome quite some opposition and ridicule but when it comes to my parents I suddenly turn into a complete coward. I am not usually a fearful person and I dislike it a great deal.
As to your suggestions they are actually not bad. I hope my parents will know better than to tell me to break up with him but even if they did I wouldn't. I will keep working hard so that when we return I can finally challenge and beat my father. That might go a long way to convince them being with another man hasn't made me soft.
Even if you communicate with your family, I think what you're talking about is something that has to be said in person. You're not a coward for waiting until you can talk to them not over a computer, and I doubt they will consider you as such. Having that degree of separation is more cowardly. Giving that respect to your parents is not disrespecting your boyfriend.
If you really want to feel like you want to get it out, you can tell your parents that you have something important for them to hear, but you want to wait to tell them in person. That way they will know you aren't hiding from them, merely waiting.
You've got awhile to think about it, considering we're trapped on an island. Use this time to strategize about how to convince them you're still the best man for the job. While it's good to mentally prepare yourself for a less than ideal situation, they just might surprise you. Parents can be cool when you least expect them to. My mom didn't want me to get a piercing, but once I had it, she didn't try to rip it out of my face. When she saw I was serious about keeping it, she went out and bought seven tubes of antibiotic. I know it's different, but just an example.
They might not like the situation, but use the strength you got from the way they raised you to convince them. Don't give up on it (unless you'd rather give up your lover;t his advice is assuming that you wouldn't dump him to obey your parents wishes. If you would, then you don't need my advice to succeed). If it takes longer to convince them than you'd like, maybe work at a rival business, or start your own. That way they can get jealous -- a little motivation. You can save the day if your brother starts to sink the ship.
Not everyone has been raised in the same circumstances as you, or has the same ambition, so you can't really expect them to understand your feelings. Hell, I can't really understand your feelings either. But if they're not willing to try and put themselves in your shoes, just change the subject. Or get revenge if you're particularly affronted.
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I know we are sheltered on the island but I still regularly communicate with my family and every time it gets more difficult to hide the fact I have somebody special in my life. Somebody asked if it wasn't rude to him and I haven't been able to find an answer yet. I don't feel ashamed of being with him here, despite having to overcome quite some opposition and ridicule but when it comes to my parents I suddenly turn into a complete coward. I am not usually a fearful person and I dislike it a great deal.
As to your suggestions they are actually not bad. I hope my parents will know better than to tell me to break up with him but even if they did I wouldn't. I will keep working hard so that when we return I can finally challenge and beat my father. That might go a long way to convince them being with another man hasn't made me soft.
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Even if you communicate with your family, I think what you're talking about is something that has to be said in person. You're not a coward for waiting until you can talk to them not over a computer, and I doubt they will consider you as such. Having that degree of separation is more cowardly. Giving that respect to your parents is not disrespecting your boyfriend.
If you really want to feel like you want to get it out, you can tell your parents that you have something important for them to hear, but you want to wait to tell them in person. That way they will know you aren't hiding from them, merely waiting.
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