Very concerned
So, I’ve had a conversation with my parents, respecting my brother. It has caused me anger, sadness and great concern for my family’s well being. This is supposed to be the time in which my parents enjoy their retirement as I and my brother work building each other’s lives independently.
I’m angered because I feel that my brother takes me and my family for granted. He appears to think that we’ll always be there to catch him and bail him out. He’s interrupting my parents’ retirement and not contributing to their household in any way that I am aware of, except when he’s told to do so.
My parents usually travel to Texas in the months of Jan., Feb., and Mar. My brother doesn’t drive, so he can not stay at my parent home during those months. He, without asking me, informed my mother that she is not to worry, he’ll live with me during that time. This news just plainly pissed me off. How dare he assume that he has my support!
I know myself well enough to know I can not let him in the door again, I can not let his sense of apathy poison my life. My brother’s sense of apathy extends to his personal hygiene and surroundings. His manners towards others are out the window (when in my home last he wouldn’t even say hello to my neighbours), as his sense of empathy towards others, non-existent. That is unless he needs something from you, then he tells you what he thinks you’ll wan t to hear, lying, manipulative little bastard!
I am, with great reluctance, going out to visit my parents and brother this weekend. My message to my brother is that any previous offer to help is revoked. I wish I didn’t have to do this, but I feel I must protect myself and my own well being, even if it means I am being selfish at the expense of family. It saddens me to have to do this to him.
I’m angered because I feel that my brother takes me and my family for granted. He appears to think that we’ll always be there to catch him and bail him out. He’s interrupting my parents’ retirement and not contributing to their household in any way that I am aware of, except when he’s told to do so.
My parents usually travel to Texas in the months of Jan., Feb., and Mar. My brother doesn’t drive, so he can not stay at my parent home during those months. He, without asking me, informed my mother that she is not to worry, he’ll live with me during that time. This news just plainly pissed me off. How dare he assume that he has my support!
I know myself well enough to know I can not let him in the door again, I can not let his sense of apathy poison my life. My brother’s sense of apathy extends to his personal hygiene and surroundings. His manners towards others are out the window (when in my home last he wouldn’t even say hello to my neighbours), as his sense of empathy towards others, non-existent. That is unless he needs something from you, then he tells you what he thinks you’ll wan t to hear, lying, manipulative little bastard!
I am, with great reluctance, going out to visit my parents and brother this weekend. My message to my brother is that any previous offer to help is revoked. I wish I didn’t have to do this, but I feel I must protect myself and my own well being, even if it means I am being selfish at the expense of family. It saddens me to have to do this to him.