talking out loud

[yummymommy]

I don't believe in double standards. I believe that not every one is created equal. As humans we all hold equal value and deserve equal opportunities (though even that can be argued) but we are individuals. As individuals we have our own unique set of needs, strengths, contributions and desires. Thus, what is good for the goose may not be good for

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[captain_bonk]

I think Healthy compromise is where Partner B restricts their own behavior and actions out of love and respect.

I agree with this and Donna's position to a point. The double standard didn't come into play because Donna simply "didn't really care if he slept with other people" while she had to remain monogamous at her partners request. In this situation she was doing the 'healthy' compromise. But now the question is, healthy to who? Healthy to the relationship? Healthy for him? Cudos to relationship building?

Partner B, (Donna) restricted her behavior, (never came across a must have hot man). But if for any reason she wished to stop restricting her behaviour in order to see some hot man she felt sexually feverish for - then a lot of talk would have to ensue for her to realize that goal or a double standard would definitely be in play.

So no, what's good for the goose is not good for the gander due to this life not being a communistic community because we're all free to choose. So if I practice what I don't want my partner doing now, then I might find myself not liking what they choose later.