About weddings
It's been more than a year since my wedding, and I still can't get over it, is that normal? In fact I suggested that we have another one. Because you just can't fit all of your dreams into only one wedding. Some women find a way - they get married over and over. I figured we should get a divorce and have another wedding. Or maybe have the second wedding in a church... If the church people don't mind that I'm sort of an agnostic kind of person, so I don't really care what kind of church we attend.
In Russia, church weddings are not official, the priest can't really pronounce you husband and wife, but many people believe that church weddings are the REAL weddings, and it's only when you're sure it's for the rest of your life, because you cannot get re-married in a church. My friend got married last summer too, they were not allowed to have a ceremony in a church because her husband had been married already, so in the church world he's still married to his ex-wife... Go figure those church rules...
Orthodox churches are weird. I have a friend, she teaches at a sunday school in a catholic church, which I think is the only catholic church on the island. Maybe I should ask her if she could arrange something... The orthodox church wouldn't take us because we're not christened and my friends probably wouldn't want to go there, their traditions are just heavy, hours of service, standing up, head covered, I don't know what else, but it's a lot of requirements. The best man and best maid have to stand with the groom and the bride for and hour or two and hold heavy crowns above their heads the whole time... I would never ask my good friend to do that for me, it's just not a good thing to ask I think :)) Catholic churches are supposed to be less ceremony-crazy.
Yesterday I downloaded software that allows you to design and order a hard-cover book-like photo-album, and I did a 40-page wedding album and I want to make another one about my dogs. And I still buy wedding magazines and visit wedding web-sites, I guess I must have another wedding. And the second time I want to make it a bit more traditional, have a long dress, take a few months to prepare, and do it without the parents, in fact maybe not invite parents at all, and have a small cozy reception, just good friends and none of the people I don't know very well... and this time I want to have a real wedding ring, because I broke my first ring when we had an argument with my husband.
In fact, when we went to the family counselor, she told us how a lot of small things we keep in the back of our minds actually play a big role in our relationships. For example, if I wanted a second wedding, I unconsciously sabotaged the relationship to cause divorce... So now I'm thinking of how I can fit it all together...
In Russia, church weddings are not official, the priest can't really pronounce you husband and wife, but many people believe that church weddings are the REAL weddings, and it's only when you're sure it's for the rest of your life, because you cannot get re-married in a church. My friend got married last summer too, they were not allowed to have a ceremony in a church because her husband had been married already, so in the church world he's still married to his ex-wife... Go figure those church rules...
Orthodox churches are weird. I have a friend, she teaches at a sunday school in a catholic church, which I think is the only catholic church on the island. Maybe I should ask her if she could arrange something... The orthodox church wouldn't take us because we're not christened and my friends probably wouldn't want to go there, their traditions are just heavy, hours of service, standing up, head covered, I don't know what else, but it's a lot of requirements. The best man and best maid have to stand with the groom and the bride for and hour or two and hold heavy crowns above their heads the whole time... I would never ask my good friend to do that for me, it's just not a good thing to ask I think :)) Catholic churches are supposed to be less ceremony-crazy.
Yesterday I downloaded software that allows you to design and order a hard-cover book-like photo-album, and I did a 40-page wedding album and I want to make another one about my dogs. And I still buy wedding magazines and visit wedding web-sites, I guess I must have another wedding. And the second time I want to make it a bit more traditional, have a long dress, take a few months to prepare, and do it without the parents, in fact maybe not invite parents at all, and have a small cozy reception, just good friends and none of the people I don't know very well... and this time I want to have a real wedding ring, because I broke my first ring when we had an argument with my husband.
In fact, when we went to the family counselor, she told us how a lot of small things we keep in the back of our minds actually play a big role in our relationships. For example, if I wanted a second wedding, I unconsciously sabotaged the relationship to cause divorce... So now I'm thinking of how I can fit it all together...