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Nonsexual Intimacies (Part 4 of 5)

Oct 27, 2011 13:01

This series is part of my activity for Asexual Awareness Week. Read Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 5.

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This section concerns things that weave people's lives together. Many of them are medium or long-term aspects. Some can be short-term, but may have lasting results. These are often ways in which people express closeness with ( Read more... )

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fayanora October 27 2011, 20:58:45 UTC

Giving someone your password and/or asking them to post to your online account.

Too intimate for me. I don't think I have or will ever trust ANYONE that much.

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The talk of raising a child together reminded me of something. In the ageplay subculture of BDSM, there's a non-sexual element of all ageplay, and for some people, they need no sexual component at all. Bigs can be intimate with their littles by caring for them like they'd care for a child. Pretty much any aspect of child-rearing can be applied to age play, from diaper changes (for infantilists) to [insert suitably teenager-associated item here].

Hell, BDSM on its own has strong non-sexual aspects. There's a whole subculture of BDSM devoted to chastity belts, even.

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Is there a term for someone who masturbates, even fantasizes about sex, and may even find sex enjoyable at times, but generally prefers cuddles?

Thoughts ysabetwordsmith October 27 2011, 22:22:32 UTC

>>Hell, BDSM on its own has strong non-sexual aspects.<<

Yes, many forms of alternative recreation can be nonsexual.

>>Is there a term for someone who masturbates, even fantasizes about sex, and may even find sex enjoyable at times, but generally prefers cuddles?<<

That could be "gray-ace" or "demisexual." Definitions and parameters vary.

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Yes... ysabetwordsmith October 28 2011, 00:14:55 UTC

That's a good example too.

cheriola January 7 2012, 17:28:10 UTC

Opening someone else's mail. It's taboo even among family members, where I come from. But sometimes you do have to trust someone else with that, for example a friend who's supposed to alert you to anything important while you're on an extended trip abroad. Or you have a trusted secretary to screen your mail for you because you're too busy, or getting distressing hatemail.

Yes... ysabetwordsmith January 9 2012, 05:30:31 UTC

That's a good example. There are even laws about not opening someone else's mail.