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hello lovlies...
i noticed that theres not a lot of posts here, so i thought i'd post a big hello to everyone...
at my job, everyone there is so straight.. its a very hetero place, i hear gay jokes, and some of my co-workers giggle and gossip when they see two people of the same sex being affectionate, even the customers.. one other staff member is out, but he works in a different department than i do, and he was out from the beginning... i work at a frou-frou type hotel, and the thing is, everyone thinks i'm straight... when i started there, people asked me about myself, i didn't really ever lie to them ,i just never put a gender on my fiancee, always calling her just that, my fiancee.. well, its been a while now, and people now refer to my fiance as him and he... and i hate the fact that i've gotten myself this far, i refer to my girl as a he too, should i speak up, and come out, or stay 'hetero'?..
i fear coming out will lose me hours at work, or friendships that are budding, although not very good friends if i cant even be honest with them...
argg, help?
thx
i noticed that theres not a lot of posts here, so i thought i'd post a big hello to everyone...
at my job, everyone there is so straight.. its a very hetero place, i hear gay jokes, and some of my co-workers giggle and gossip when they see two people of the same sex being affectionate, even the customers.. one other staff member is out, but he works in a different department than i do, and he was out from the beginning... i work at a frou-frou type hotel, and the thing is, everyone thinks i'm straight... when i started there, people asked me about myself, i didn't really ever lie to them ,i just never put a gender on my fiancee, always calling her just that, my fiancee.. well, its been a while now, and people now refer to my fiance as him and he... and i hate the fact that i've gotten myself this far, i refer to my girl as a he too, should i speak up, and come out, or stay 'hetero'?..
i fear coming out will lose me hours at work, or friendships that are budding, although not very good friends if i cant even be honest with them...
argg, help?
thx