So I know I never update...but I always feel like what I want to say isnt significant enough for an entire post but lately I've been thinking; and I think that this might be significant enough
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wudd up lady?! glad you finally posted ^_^ yours are a lot more meaningful than mine!! hehe
anyways, so about the losing of friends in the past couple of years: i think you are happy about it bc they were all bitches lol they werent the nicest people around & they were making you feel bad when you were around them, so therefore, yeah of corse you are happy! its like a weight lifted from your shoulders & im happy about it too & i hung out with them far less than you did! but at the same time..when we think back about these friends, we often have feelings of anger towards them (notice above i called them all bitches lol) and sometimes anger is just a cover for hurt feelings & pain...but, i still stand by my first statement that you are better off without them bitches! lol
personally, what makes me sad is when it happens with people we are still are good friends with...like all the greek guys...i mean sure, we still see them, but i cant even remember the last time i hung out with them all..& that makes me sad
now, with the whole "love" section of your blog...the quote you are thinking of is: Tis better to have loved AND lost than NEVER to have loved at all...i agree with what you said...no one likes getting their heart ripped open & what not...but at the same time, to go with your theory, you cant lose something that you never first experienced & therefore, you cant really have either happy or sad feelings about it...so by ignoring the feeling completely one really cant choose to lose rather than to love
i agree with you though...sometimes losing is not a bad thing...it can help you be a better and more happy person...but losing and ignoring/avoiding are two different things which are often hard to define i think...so be careful to not confuse the two....but, you know, at the same time it is your choice and your life...but you may be missing out on something by avoiding it...even if its unintentional...you have to put yourself out there a little bit in order to seek a greater happiness...& you will never attain that feeling, or even have the choice of loosing it, unless you first choose to expierence it.
& yeah, there is pain in relationships, as there is pain in every aspect of life...that doesnt mean you just give up on it right when things get tuff & when feelings are hurt...loves not perfect unfortunately & it can get real really fast, but you know what...i really wouldnt change any of it, bc in the end...if you can get past the pain that occurs at times, your love will only grow stronger...some may disagree, but that is how i see it < 3
i dunno if that made any sence..im sure i contradicted myself a couple times in there but thats what i think...its often not as clear cut as being put into such simple categories...humans arent that simple...we are some complex motha fuckas! lol so you know, dont get upset about how you think you should be...i love my nina the way she is lol & i know that you have a "scientific" & "mathmatic" mind & its hard for you to not try to rationalize things...but i really dont think feelings can be rationalized...they are, after all feelings, & we as humans are not rational when we express them lol...
i dont know if that really answered your question or helped you at all, but i guess that is how i see it...not that im an expert....just a friend trying to help :D
but always remember this one important thing:
i louibe you nina!!!!! & see, i remember the first time you met me you wouldnt talk to me cuz i was the "new girl" at church...but then you found out i was in the original preschool dance group & we were cool lol but, you know, if you had never opened up & talked to me, we wouldnt be the best of friends that we are today < 333 yeahhh!
Re: damn this is long!!!youmustbetiredMay 9 2005, 00:43:17 UTC
Thank you for your kind words :) I don't know if I will ever know why I suck the surprise out of life with my rationalizations, but it's nice to know you louibe me anyways :) And you should know as well that I'm always here for you if you need someone to talk to about anything. And I do worry when you get upset, and I will never not worry...so you should just tell me what's wrong...just saying...you don't have to though...it's up to you. :) Thanks Louibe you! Nina
anyways, so about the losing of friends in the past couple of years: i think you are happy about it bc they were all bitches lol they werent the nicest people around & they were making you feel bad when you were around them, so therefore, yeah of corse you are happy! its like a weight lifted from your shoulders & im happy about it too & i hung out with them far less than you did! but at the same time..when we think back about these friends, we often have feelings of anger towards them (notice above i called them all bitches lol) and sometimes anger is just a cover for hurt feelings & pain...but, i still stand by my first statement that you are better off without them bitches! lol
personally, what makes me sad is when it happens with people we are still are good friends with...like all the greek guys...i mean sure, we still see them, but i cant even remember the last time i hung out with them all..& that makes me sad
now, with the whole "love" section of your blog...the quote you are thinking of is: Tis better to have loved AND lost than NEVER to have loved at all...i agree with what you said...no one likes getting their heart ripped open & what not...but at the same time, to go with your theory, you cant lose something that you never first experienced & therefore, you cant really have either happy or sad feelings about it...so by ignoring the feeling completely one really cant choose to lose rather than to love
i agree with you though...sometimes losing is not a bad thing...it can help you be a better and more happy person...but losing and ignoring/avoiding are two different things which are often hard to define i think...so be careful to not confuse the two....but, you know, at the same time it is your choice and your life...but you may be missing out on something by avoiding it...even if its unintentional...you have to put yourself out there a little bit in order to seek a greater happiness...& you will never attain that feeling, or even have the choice of loosing it, unless you first choose to expierence it.
& yeah, there is pain in relationships, as there is pain in every aspect of life...that doesnt mean you just give up on it right when things get tuff & when feelings are hurt...loves not perfect unfortunately & it can get real really fast, but you know what...i really wouldnt change any of it, bc in the end...if you can get past the pain that occurs at times, your love will only grow stronger...some may disagree, but that is how i see it < 3
i dunno if that made any sence..im sure i contradicted myself a couple times in there but thats what i think...its often not as clear cut as being put into such simple categories...humans arent that simple...we are some complex motha fuckas! lol so you know, dont get upset about how you think you should be...i love my nina the way she is lol & i know that you have a "scientific" & "mathmatic" mind & its hard for you to not try to rationalize things...but i really dont think feelings can be rationalized...they are, after all feelings, & we as humans are not rational when we express them lol...
i dont know if that really answered your question or helped you at all, but i guess that is how i see it...not that im an expert....just a friend trying to help :D
but always remember this one important thing:
i louibe you nina!!!!!
& see, i remember the first time you met me you wouldnt talk to me cuz i was the "new girl" at church...but then you found out i was in the original preschool dance group & we were cool lol but, you know, if you had never opened up & talked to me, we wouldnt be the best of friends that we are today < 333 yeahhh!
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I don't know if I will ever know why I suck the surprise out of life with my rationalizations, but it's nice to know you louibe me anyways :)
And you should know as well that I'm always here for you if you need someone to talk to about anything. And I do worry when you get upset, and I will never not worry...so you should just tell me what's wrong...just saying...you don't have to though...it's up to you. :)
Thanks
Louibe you!
Nina
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