interesting advice
"You are not necessarily hurting because you're missing him but because you haven't worked through the leftover pain. A relationship can haunt us when we don't fully understand what happened, why it happened or why we reacted as we did. What you are really missing isn't this man but your own self-respect and self-esteem. You have a longing to return to him to get closure -- to feel good about yourself, to get proof that you are loveable and understand why he behaved as he did. Many women seem to want to be in -- or return to -- abusive relationships because they are stimulating; your ability to be loved, wanted and treated well are being challenged. But getting involved with your ex (or someone like him) isn't the answer. The answer is to understand yourself more fully and also to understand the true nature of love."