What makes you feel special?

[yodanshadancer]

Last night, the guy I'm seeing dropped by for a few minutes to give me a honey bun. I love honey buns but I stopped buying them about a year ago because they are SO BAD. I'll make an exception and eat this one though. :)  And he is pretty good at demonstrating his affection to me... just reading about last night, I can see a couple of examples of

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[ihvpave]

hmm.

Well, there are a zillion ways - it's all in how you read what your SO is doing and if you notice and recognise it as being special to you.

Like, The Yuppy Puppy was all about Grand Romantic gestures - a weekend at a bed and breakfast, candles and rose petals everywhere for a romantic night in, flowers at the office and so on. To him, those were romantic things. To me... Not so much - they felt like what he thought "romantic" should be, not what romantic would be for me, specifically. One of my exes was all about presents that he thought I should have - not because it was necessarily something I wanted, but 'cos he thought I should want it - so they weren't as important to me as the ex who was also a "gifter" but who put serious time and thought into what I like and want and would enjoy (which, even when he missed, I appreciated much more, 'cos I could see where the thought went into it).

HotRod is a whole 'nother ball of wax - he likes small, intimate gestures. Like, I have to go to bed early, and I really like for us to go to bed together... But he prefers to stay up later than I do, so he comes with my while I get ready for bed, tucks me in all cozy, and hangs out with me while I am going to sleep. So, he's trying to meet my needs, without neglecting his own. He is very patient with my babies when they are going crazy and I know they are on his nerves... but he never takes it out on them or me - he will love on them just as if they havne't been yowling their fool heads off. Mowing the lawn, installing a new spigot, changing the oil in my car - the things he knows I don't want to do and to make my life easier. Simple considerations like "Hey, I'm getting some coffee, do you want some too, or can I make you some tea?" are nice too.

So, that: things that enhance my life or make it easier in some way that he knows will make me happy/ content/ pleased. Also, non-sexual affection.

[yodanshadancer]

Your Yuppy Puppy reminds me a lil bit of my ex-hubby in the beginning of our relationship. In the beginning, he would bring me a rose each and every time he saw me... even if he saw me 3 times in one day... Ok... Let's be practical here. :) It isn't that I don't appreciate it but... One a week... or a season even, is good enough for me. :) I'm more of a carnation girl anyway. Sure it may be a funeral flower but they smell better and are pretty much much longer.

I love thoughtful gifts too, even if they are a little off the mark.