There are few things worse than dealing with an adult acting like a child
Small vent session here
Okay, I have some hot buttons with my personality. I acknowledge them, I'm honest about them, and when pressed, I let people know why I went from zero to foaming madman at the drop of a hat. While every person is different, we all have things which cause us to act this way when certain stimuli are used.
Watching an otherwise rational adult (and by adult, I'm talking 50+ years old) devolve into a petulant child because they didn't hear what they wanted to hear (basically that I was uninterested in providing aid to someone at work because they waited over three months to ask for assistance, wanted me to drop everything to help them ASAP, and didn't ask for me because of my skills or experience but because a relative is also at the company in a much higher position and mentioned my name... the sole phone call they left me mentioned that fact about four times in a 90 second voice mail) would be on that list of stimuli for me.
I'm as much of a team player as the next guy, but here's how I look at it. You can tell a lot about the people you're working for by the way in which they try to bring you on-board. When they leave you hanging on the vine for several months, you can rest assured that they either don't have their stuff together, OR that you'll be left to rot in your position (due to lack of necessary support). Neither of these options sounds like a good idea to me personally.
When you finally get around to me and you make it sound like the only reason you're calling me is due to a relative's influence, well that's not exactly helping your cause. Aside from the personal insult that I take it as, that creates an ethical dilemma for me. Anyone who works with me can tell you that ethics are a very important thing to me, and I don't compromise when it comes to them.
This makes sense, right? I don't know about the rest of the folks where I work, but I've made it a very good effort to keep my familial relations on the DL, and to downplay them to the folks who know. I'll make my own way in my career, thank you. I don't need help, and I take a dim view of anyone who uses nepotism to further their own career.
And now I have a manager who's pissed because I'm no longer interested in working for this guy anymore. Nevermind hanging on the vine for so long, or that his approach to me was in a manner which can best be described as being on the ethical thin ice. Also, we're ignoring that my response to the guy's VM (I was nice and wanted to see this through, but was pretty much writing it off... wanted to give a chance for him to change my mind) went unanswered and ignored. Apparently I'm supposed to be happy for whatever is tossed my way.
Sorry folks, that just isn't my style. We operate with a modicum of professional behavior, or I'm not getting out of bed for you. Don't like it? Welcome to the world we live in.
On that note. Time to get some sleep before this really starts to irritate me, lol.
Okay, I have some hot buttons with my personality. I acknowledge them, I'm honest about them, and when pressed, I let people know why I went from zero to foaming madman at the drop of a hat. While every person is different, we all have things which cause us to act this way when certain stimuli are used.
Watching an otherwise rational adult (and by adult, I'm talking 50+ years old) devolve into a petulant child because they didn't hear what they wanted to hear (basically that I was uninterested in providing aid to someone at work because they waited over three months to ask for assistance, wanted me to drop everything to help them ASAP, and didn't ask for me because of my skills or experience but because a relative is also at the company in a much higher position and mentioned my name... the sole phone call they left me mentioned that fact about four times in a 90 second voice mail) would be on that list of stimuli for me.
I'm as much of a team player as the next guy, but here's how I look at it. You can tell a lot about the people you're working for by the way in which they try to bring you on-board. When they leave you hanging on the vine for several months, you can rest assured that they either don't have their stuff together, OR that you'll be left to rot in your position (due to lack of necessary support). Neither of these options sounds like a good idea to me personally.
When you finally get around to me and you make it sound like the only reason you're calling me is due to a relative's influence, well that's not exactly helping your cause. Aside from the personal insult that I take it as, that creates an ethical dilemma for me. Anyone who works with me can tell you that ethics are a very important thing to me, and I don't compromise when it comes to them.
This makes sense, right? I don't know about the rest of the folks where I work, but I've made it a very good effort to keep my familial relations on the DL, and to downplay them to the folks who know. I'll make my own way in my career, thank you. I don't need help, and I take a dim view of anyone who uses nepotism to further their own career.
And now I have a manager who's pissed because I'm no longer interested in working for this guy anymore. Nevermind hanging on the vine for so long, or that his approach to me was in a manner which can best be described as being on the ethical thin ice. Also, we're ignoring that my response to the guy's VM (I was nice and wanted to see this through, but was pretty much writing it off... wanted to give a chance for him to change my mind) went unanswered and ignored. Apparently I'm supposed to be happy for whatever is tossed my way.
Sorry folks, that just isn't my style. We operate with a modicum of professional behavior, or I'm not getting out of bed for you. Don't like it? Welcome to the world we live in.
On that note. Time to get some sleep before this really starts to irritate me, lol.