surprises underneath the huge boulder
as i grow older, i become increasingly aware that i'm not as chatty as before. i'm more impatient too and that's a bad thing.
i give myself the excuse that i'm impatient because of my job. give me what i want to hear quick or else you will not qualify.
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strike and you are out. that's 5 seconds before i give up on the conversation if it gets nowhere.
because i'm getting more impatient and hardly as chatty, i'm a boring date at times. i rather sit there and listen if i can't find a good enough topic to chat. but hardly anyone can tell when i'm running out of topics to talk about because for most of the times, i like listening as well. so it's one or the other.
the good thing is that it doesn't happen with close friends because i never live to impress (yes, unfortunately, the silence fillers are meant to pretend that i'm quite an engaging person by nature). i can chat all day, crack crazy jokes, entertain them with my usual antics or just sit in silence. i'm perfectly fine and i'm sure they are too.
but it's the occasional new friend that i meet that it's either a hit or a miss.
either they think that i'm a good chat or i just bore them to death.
so it's nice when you do meet someone where you can click very well with. someone who shares the same thoughts as you, someone who reveals a small part of his life with you and you instantly feel the connection because it happened to you before.
one of my such a new friend, b*en t*an.
i met him on a job and from there we started talking. funny how i don't click very much with my other interviewees but ben and i came from the same secondary school, so it helped the conversation initially.
then as we went along, we realised that we aren't able to find a point to stop talking. we literally have to jump into each other's words mid sentence.
so last night we met up for dinner and drinks and just chatted and chatted and chatted like the usual. then we started talking about finding people who you can talk to and have no lack of conversation topics to talk about. tada.
it's nice to find someone who is so like you and thinks the same weird things as you. i'm really glad at the end, i've found a great friend.
at least someone enjoys talking to me.
i'm not so boring after all. :)
i give myself the excuse that i'm impatient because of my job. give me what i want to hear quick or else you will not qualify.
1
2
3
4
5
strike and you are out. that's 5 seconds before i give up on the conversation if it gets nowhere.
because i'm getting more impatient and hardly as chatty, i'm a boring date at times. i rather sit there and listen if i can't find a good enough topic to chat. but hardly anyone can tell when i'm running out of topics to talk about because for most of the times, i like listening as well. so it's one or the other.
the good thing is that it doesn't happen with close friends because i never live to impress (yes, unfortunately, the silence fillers are meant to pretend that i'm quite an engaging person by nature). i can chat all day, crack crazy jokes, entertain them with my usual antics or just sit in silence. i'm perfectly fine and i'm sure they are too.
but it's the occasional new friend that i meet that it's either a hit or a miss.
either they think that i'm a good chat or i just bore them to death.
so it's nice when you do meet someone where you can click very well with. someone who shares the same thoughts as you, someone who reveals a small part of his life with you and you instantly feel the connection because it happened to you before.
one of my such a new friend, b*en t*an.
i met him on a job and from there we started talking. funny how i don't click very much with my other interviewees but ben and i came from the same secondary school, so it helped the conversation initially.
then as we went along, we realised that we aren't able to find a point to stop talking. we literally have to jump into each other's words mid sentence.
so last night we met up for dinner and drinks and just chatted and chatted and chatted like the usual. then we started talking about finding people who you can talk to and have no lack of conversation topics to talk about. tada.
it's nice to find someone who is so like you and thinks the same weird things as you. i'm really glad at the end, i've found a great friend.
at least someone enjoys talking to me.
i'm not so boring after all. :)