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[yiskah]

I have no idea what to post about on LJ at the moment (everything seems to involve too much background and context), and am having a slow Friday (day-off plans foiled by ill couchsurfer, though I may go out shortly to read a book in a cafe or similar), so I am going to do this meme. I always assume that everyone knows everything about me, but maybe

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[p_dan_tic]

what i want to know about you:

why the hell did you sleep with a tory? :)

(using booze as an excuse isn't allowed)

[chiller]

Oh come on, even I can answer that one on my own behalf: Tories are WRONGE. This makes them the best lovers. FACT.

[yiskah]

I STRONGLY DISPUTE THIS.

[p_dan_tic]

yeah me too

I had that maggie thatcher once, and she was shite ;)

[chiller]

But you felt so dirrrrty, afterwards.

[chiller]

Malfoy's Dad is a conservative.

AW YEAH.

[yiskah]

*projectile vomits onto monitor*

[p_dan_tic]

seriously that just can't be right.....

[chiller]

Precisely my point.

[yiskah]

Can I plead ignorance? I dunno, it probably speaks volumes of my own prejudices that I tend to assume that anyone working in humanitarian work (which he was at the time) is a big old lefty. I knew he was more right-wing than I am, but that is not very difficult.

Also, I was in the middle of nowhere in South Sudan. Pickings were slim!

[p_dan_tic]

ok I've had a think and now I've got a real question:

you know your ex, the one who have the house with? I've seen pictures, and you've put his wax in my hair and I might even have met him although it's in my mind as a drunked haze so I might have been imagining stuff....

anyway, in all that, there never has seemed to be anything about him which is worthy of mertit or or even mention, where as you (obviously) are really quite ace and have since proven you can do *SO* much better

so did he have some redeaming feature you've never told us about, or had he become less good over time, or is there another reason?

[yiskah]

Oh Dan, Dan...he is actually on LJ and on my f'list (not that that would make a difference since this post is public anyway). Still, I'm fairly positive he doesn't read my journal any more, so I will do my best to answer!

So, OK, we got together when I was 20 and he was 21, and at the time I was very much in love (and I think he was too, at least for the first six months or so) - it seemed like we had loads and loads in common, though in hindsight those were mostly superficial things (similar educational and family background, similar political views - I think, anyway). I thought he was great - very intelligent and interesting and enthused about the world, and I still think that he is these things - the main problem (which I noticed fairly early on, but tried to ignore) was that he was never particularly interested in me on anything beyond a physical level, and I had the sense through much of the relationship that in many ways I could have been anyone. I do feel like he changed during the relationship and I didn't - he might be more

[p_dan_tic]

I don't think he's bad lady, just that you're fairly fucking ace, and he seems to have been punching above his weight.

and ah yeah, the being determined to make it work.... what a pleasent place that is to be when you're as stubbon as we are ;)

[yiskah]

Well OBV I am ace and so is Tom, so it's a good thing everything worked out as it has!

Yeah, the determined to make it work thing is tough - I'm never quite sure where the balance lies between "relationships take work and you shouldn't assume everything's going to be easy" and "wow, it's really time you cut your losses". I am both stubborn and loyal and also a bit obsessive about FORWARD MOVEMENT AND PROGRESS so it can be hard to effectively write off nearly seven years and start from scratch. But it's worth doing, of course.

[p_dan_tic]

yeah the fact that tom is ace GOES WITHOUT SAYING, k?