Fucking Freud

[yerch]

I'm reading Ernest Becker's "Denial of Death" and so far a lot of it is wonderful. My highlighter has been going non-stop. But I've hit the point where he is trying to square his premises with Freud and I am about to jump out a window. Am I the only one that remembers my childhood

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[y00ri]

“Am I the only one that remembers my childhood?”

Probably not, but I believe that most people don’t and for very good reason. Well, that’s what Freud taught me… LOL

“The world had boys, girls, dogs, cats, trees, birds, etc. when they were born and the child assimilated and accomodated accordingly. It is the way it is and we accept it - for a while. Then our childlike curiosity kicks in and we want to know why it is the way it is. At that point we ask the most powerful beings in the universe - our parents…We come into this world living on delegated power. Our parents are our models for god…and we were told that god worked in mysterious ways. "Why are boys and girls different?" Because god made them that way. It's simple.”

What I get from this is:
Parents = God
Our Parents told us as children that God works in mysterious ways.
God = works in mysterious ways
- Therefore -
Parents = works in mysterious ways

Boys ≠ Girls
- Why? -
God made them that way, thus Parents made boys and girls different.

As the primary social influence in our lives, our parents are the first to teach us those differences (explicitly or implicitly from their environment.) From the day we are born, we are treated according to our gender. Then, our peers and the institutions of education, government, and media enforce our inscribed and achieved roles and statuses.
According to how the child was molded in your assimilation/accommodation rationality, the parental dyad could very easily have inhibited or interfered with how each would perceive and interact in the world.