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http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/07/08/men.want.to.get.married/index.html
^interesting article on CNN today, called "do men really want to get married?" --more interesting than the actual article are the comments. some of my favorites:
"The only people who are dumb enough to want to get married nowadays are gay! As if they haven't already suffered enough yet!"
"Every married man I've ever talked to has said not to do it. I'm 33 and have never been married and agree it's a silly institution created by the government to get a piece of the family pie." --I'd like to know what state this guy lives in... I've never heard a man say not to get married. Maybe they just don't say it to women?
"The institute of marriage is nothing more than a cultural byproduct left over from the days when women were treated as property up through the 1950s when women were taught that the highest aspirations they could achieve were to bare children and cook dinner. Those days are over and marriage is beginning to show its age not only in the sense that people are questioning its necessity and the morality of it in general, but also at the sheer lack of sense in dropping that much money on such a pointless investment. Harsh to call a wedding pointless? Maybe in the eyes of some who are culturally infected by reactionary thinking, but their are other ways to show you love someone besides an expensive wedding and weddings in no way promise any more stability or faithfulness than if you and your partner chose to remain un-married."
My dad said: "Son, marriage is a deal where a man gives up one half of his food to get the other half cooked. And son, it isn't worth it."
I think marriage will just remain one of those things, like abortion, that I'm permanently on the fence about. I can't say anyone is wrong for getting married, or wanting to, because it is completely ingrained in our culture. But it's something that it would be good for people to take a step back from and dissect. I'm completely stoked for my friends who announce their engagements, and I cry at every ceremony, but there's a part of me that wants to rebel.
^interesting article on CNN today, called "do men really want to get married?" --more interesting than the actual article are the comments. some of my favorites:
"The only people who are dumb enough to want to get married nowadays are gay! As if they haven't already suffered enough yet!"
"Every married man I've ever talked to has said not to do it. I'm 33 and have never been married and agree it's a silly institution created by the government to get a piece of the family pie." --I'd like to know what state this guy lives in... I've never heard a man say not to get married. Maybe they just don't say it to women?
"The institute of marriage is nothing more than a cultural byproduct left over from the days when women were treated as property up through the 1950s when women were taught that the highest aspirations they could achieve were to bare children and cook dinner. Those days are over and marriage is beginning to show its age not only in the sense that people are questioning its necessity and the morality of it in general, but also at the sheer lack of sense in dropping that much money on such a pointless investment. Harsh to call a wedding pointless? Maybe in the eyes of some who are culturally infected by reactionary thinking, but their are other ways to show you love someone besides an expensive wedding and weddings in no way promise any more stability or faithfulness than if you and your partner chose to remain un-married."
My dad said: "Son, marriage is a deal where a man gives up one half of his food to get the other half cooked. And son, it isn't worth it."
I think marriage will just remain one of those things, like abortion, that I'm permanently on the fence about. I can't say anyone is wrong for getting married, or wanting to, because it is completely ingrained in our culture. But it's something that it would be good for people to take a step back from and dissect. I'm completely stoked for my friends who announce their engagements, and I cry at every ceremony, but there's a part of me that wants to rebel.