But seriously, you are not the epitomy of Murphy's Law, and at least you got a superlative, some of us did not. Also you were like 10th or something in your high school class. I was like, nothing. You rock.
I don't know what to say about buying a house. Maybe don't do it. Or maybe you should. I don't know. I feel for you and will pray.
Of course it is okay to feel afraid. And to feel alone. That is all natural and normal. And while you need to acknowledge it and accept it, you do not have to be ruled by those feelings.
If you choose not to go through with the transaction, don't make it because you are afraid. Don't make it because you are alone. Make it because you have decided that it is not wise to do so.
What do you want? What are you committed to? Make those the touchstones by which you make your choice.
Yes, what he said. I wish I could've been so eloquent but I was having a self-absorbed moment.
And of course it is okay to feel alone even when you are fiercely independent such as yourself. Just take deep breaths and get quiet for a bit. Then, really try to recognize what comes up. Is it emotion such as fear? Then don't give into that. Is it a thought about practicalities only? Then don't make the decision on just that either. The two must be integrated. You will know you have made the right decision when you feel at peace with the decision--content and without conflict or inner turmoil.
Feel content with my entire savings account (and most of my checking too!) are now gone? Feel at peace when I already know I won't have enough money to get through the month? I will NEVER feel right with the decision to buy a house, especially this particular house
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Well, at the risk of sounding pompous or like I am in a new cult, here goes: I don't know if you made what I would call(or rather mental health care professionals would call)an emotionally and rationally integrated decision, but I will rephrase about the wisdom decision thing(wisdom, here meaning emotion and rationale together
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But seriously, you are not the epitomy of Murphy's Law, and at least you got a superlative, some of us did not. Also you were like 10th or something in your high school class. I was like, nothing. You rock.
I don't know what to say about buying a house. Maybe don't do it. Or maybe you should. I don't know. I feel for you and will pray.
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If you choose not to go through with the transaction, don't make it because you are afraid. Don't make it because you are alone. Make it because you have decided that it is not wise to do so.
What do you want? What are you committed to? Make those the touchstones by which you make your choice.
And keep breathing. Breathing is your friend.
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And of course it is okay to feel alone even when you are fiercely independent such as yourself. Just take deep breaths and get quiet for a bit. Then, really try to recognize what comes up. Is it emotion such as fear? Then don't give into that. Is it a thought about practicalities only? Then don't make the decision on just that either. The two must be integrated. You will know you have made the right decision when you feel at peace with the decision--content and without conflict or inner turmoil.
Okay, all that aside, good luck.
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