A question was posed in one of my classes today by a fellow student and i am curious as to what others would answer as the answers in my class varied
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Avoiding the semantics issue of my lack of belief in the commonly connoted in "soul",
I guess it boils down to the fact I'm not even really sure what a "soul mate" is, I have some ideas, but mostly just screwed up badly written depictions of such things from movies books and a little tv. As the emotions go, I've felt that I felt that type of connection it several times, sometimes Ive gone head over heels trying to catch the willow-of-the-wisp, other times I've tried to study it and observe. Sadly unless Disney is incorrect and it has some magic I cant see, and have not really found its usually a false alarm, or fleeting, or unrequited.
To answer the 1st question, if one happens to find their soul mate, and its something real and lasting (of which i don't believe one can just know. They can think/hope/dream/wish that its true, but all aspects of human interaction are like gardening, it only works if you get dirty and work through the floods and blights and other problems.). It would be hard to ascertain that the mutual commitment is there untill the road gets rocky.
So, I think at once anyone, and no-one could be someones soul mate, and its more about them than me, so if they are convinced whomever you are with can't be/won't be or is unwilling to be, your soul mate, then you are unlikely to mutually support each other to the degree it takes to make things work anyway.
As for the 2nd, one, I'm not sure. I'm pretty set and comfortable in my sexual gender/preference so I suspect while I could love and support someone of the incorrect gender. (I already do frequently with my friends). So I could say a best (platonic) friend could nearly fit the bill. I'm not sure I would feel that absolute head over heels I feel for you.
Avoiding the semantics issue of my lack of belief in the commonly connoted in "soul",
I guess it boils down to the fact I'm not even really sure what a "soul mate" is, I have some ideas, but mostly just screwed up badly written depictions of such things from movies books and a little tv. As the emotions go, I've felt that I felt that type of connection it several times, sometimes Ive gone head over heels trying to catch the willow-of-the-wisp, other times I've tried to study it and observe. Sadly unless Disney is incorrect and it has some magic I cant see, and have not really found its usually a false alarm, or fleeting, or unrequited.
To answer the 1st question, if one happens to find their soul mate, and its something real and lasting (of which i don't believe one can just know. They can think/hope/dream/wish that its true, but all aspects of human interaction are like gardening, it only works if you get dirty and work through the floods and blights and other problems.). It would be hard to ascertain that the mutual commitment is there untill the road gets rocky.
So, I think at once anyone, and no-one could be someones soul mate, and its more about them than me, so if they are convinced whomever you are with can't be/won't be or is unwilling to be, your soul mate, then you are unlikely to mutually support each other to the degree it takes to make things work anyway.
As for the 2nd, one, I'm not sure. I'm pretty set and comfortable in my sexual gender/preference so I suspect while I could love and support someone of the incorrect gender. (I already do frequently with my friends). So I could say a best (platonic) friend could nearly fit the bill. I'm not sure I would feel that absolute head over heels I feel for you.
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