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I keep seeing trailers for some movie called The Lucky One on TV. Apparently it's about this guy who finds a picture of a girl and falls in love with her while he's doing a tour of duty in the Middle East, and then when he gets back to the States goes and finds her and she falls for him and happily ever after...
...and all I can think is that is so fucked up.
I mean, if it were me? I'd invite him in for tea and cookies, give him a gentle let-down and the phone number of a good therapist. It's not romantic. It's just stupid. He's in love with the girl he invented to go with the photo, not a real person. And lord knows if I was in her position I wouldn't be anything like what he's expecting.
And moreover, he's looking for someone to save him - she's his lucky charm that protected him while he was in combat, and now she's probably going to be expected to fix all his other problems too. Fuck that whole stupid narrative. You can't expect another person to fix your problems for you, and finding "the right woman" isn't going to magically make your life better. It's like the whole stupid Manic Pixie Dream Girl thing. A good therapist is going to do a lot more for helping you get your shit together so you can have a healthy relationship, and it's their job. Being a woman doesn't make it my job to be your therapist just like being a cute geeky girl doesn't make it my job to be your Manic Pixie Dream Girl.
Furthermore, it was just a picture! That's no basis for a relationship. Maybe a basis for one night of hot sex, but all that's going to happen after that is him finding out that the girl he made up to go along with it is nothing like the real person behind the photo, and then everything falls apart and it's depressing.
...and all I can think is that is so fucked up.
I mean, if it were me? I'd invite him in for tea and cookies, give him a gentle let-down and the phone number of a good therapist. It's not romantic. It's just stupid. He's in love with the girl he invented to go with the photo, not a real person. And lord knows if I was in her position I wouldn't be anything like what he's expecting.
And moreover, he's looking for someone to save him - she's his lucky charm that protected him while he was in combat, and now she's probably going to be expected to fix all his other problems too. Fuck that whole stupid narrative. You can't expect another person to fix your problems for you, and finding "the right woman" isn't going to magically make your life better. It's like the whole stupid Manic Pixie Dream Girl thing. A good therapist is going to do a lot more for helping you get your shit together so you can have a healthy relationship, and it's their job. Being a woman doesn't make it my job to be your therapist just like being a cute geeky girl doesn't make it my job to be your Manic Pixie Dream Girl.
Furthermore, it was just a picture! That's no basis for a relationship. Maybe a basis for one night of hot sex, but all that's going to happen after that is him finding out that the girl he made up to go along with it is nothing like the real person behind the photo, and then everything falls apart and it's depressing.