30 Day Blog #5
I was actually dreading this one, love is so hard to describe.
Love is a myriad of things and emotions. There are different kinds of love, and different ways to love, and different motivations to love.
But "love," or the sense of feeling IN love, is produced by chemicals in your brain. Kinda makes love cheap, doesn't it? I disagree, because there are times that the person you love is about to piss you off to no end and cause a mass shooting at a mall but you still love them anyway, and when I say love, I mean show the person you love them, whether it be choosing not to scream at them in a fight, or listening to them, and not walking away. On types of love, I really tend to agree with the triangular theory of love. Intimacy, passion, and commitment are all different feelings, and different combinations of them produce different relationships. The ultimate goal is to have all three, "consummate love" which is hard to maintain, let me tell you! I think we have all been in all of the situations described by the theory, staying with someone because you're supposed to, being best friends, having crushes, or my personal favorite as it seems to be, fatuous love: passion and commitment. To be honest, most men I dated I wouldn't really be "friends" with. I didn't respect them as an individual. If I saw them on the street and they had their characteristics written on their forehead I would run in the opposite direction. Doesn't mean you can't be committed or very attracted to that person. But as I said, more than the feeling OF love, people decide to love, to give love, to make love ;). That is something we humans do on our own. Something not ruled by our emotions, but by our conscience. Whatever in the brain tells us what is right and wrong and leads us to do what we believe. I just experienced this last night, I was already feeling upset, called Ryan, and the slightest thing pissed me off and I refused to talk to him for hours until we go to the karaoke place and I saw how many songs reminded me of him so I decided to call and apologize. According to him I never apologize so there is my case in point. Irregardless if I was feeling amorous about him at that point in time, I made the decision to demonstrate my love for him. And that's what I think love is all about.
Love is a myriad of things and emotions. There are different kinds of love, and different ways to love, and different motivations to love.
But "love," or the sense of feeling IN love, is produced by chemicals in your brain. Kinda makes love cheap, doesn't it? I disagree, because there are times that the person you love is about to piss you off to no end and cause a mass shooting at a mall but you still love them anyway, and when I say love, I mean show the person you love them, whether it be choosing not to scream at them in a fight, or listening to them, and not walking away. On types of love, I really tend to agree with the triangular theory of love. Intimacy, passion, and commitment are all different feelings, and different combinations of them produce different relationships. The ultimate goal is to have all three, "consummate love" which is hard to maintain, let me tell you! I think we have all been in all of the situations described by the theory, staying with someone because you're supposed to, being best friends, having crushes, or my personal favorite as it seems to be, fatuous love: passion and commitment. To be honest, most men I dated I wouldn't really be "friends" with. I didn't respect them as an individual. If I saw them on the street and they had their characteristics written on their forehead I would run in the opposite direction. Doesn't mean you can't be committed or very attracted to that person. But as I said, more than the feeling OF love, people decide to love, to give love, to make love ;). That is something we humans do on our own. Something not ruled by our emotions, but by our conscience. Whatever in the brain tells us what is right and wrong and leads us to do what we believe. I just experienced this last night, I was already feeling upset, called Ryan, and the slightest thing pissed me off and I refused to talk to him for hours until we go to the karaoke place and I saw how many songs reminded me of him so I decided to call and apologize. According to him I never apologize so there is my case in point. Irregardless if I was feeling amorous about him at that point in time, I made the decision to demonstrate my love for him. And that's what I think love is all about.