None of these things seem "romantic" to me. They seem...normal.
* I once drove through a blizzard and cleaned off her car so she didnt have to.
* I once dropped off "the good car" and drove the crappy car during yet another blizzard. I went to her office and switched cars out so that the good car was in the same parking spot...also freshly cleared of snow.
Would you consider going and getting morning coffee (or making it) romantic? Breakfast in bed? Having your favorite wine ready for you when you get home for work and a candle lit bath already drawn? Having flowers waiting for you at your hotel room while you're away at a conference? How about driving 7 hours just to have dinner with someone?
These things arent "romantic" to me, they are just nice things you do for someone when you wanna say "hey, I care" or even "hey, I kinda dig you".
This gets me in trouble (as well as being a huge flirt) but I dont see any significant reason* not to be romantic even with acquaintance level people. In the rosey colored world I live in, Im allowed to make anyone happy if I so desire it.
The things that most people list as "romantic" are really just thoughtful, caring, loving, or down right lustful in nature. I pretty much got all of those covered!
* = Being in a relationship where your partner is very put off by this outward showing of love to others, the recipient being "weirded out" by the attention...those are a couple of good ones.
If your goals are something other than pleasing yourself then I'd re-examine those.
Lets be honest, pouring a lot of energy into someone in hopes of getting {laid, closer to them, a hug, kiss, some of their tasty snack} and then not getting whatever... that tends to seem like a waste of time. The waste of time thing comes in, for me, when I have an expectation of something and it is not met. I combat this in my life by realizing when I have those "wants" and making sure that they are both "within reason for the situation" and "communicated clearly when appropriate". This doesnt always work but it has cut down on the number of incredibly pissy moment or blur-temper tantrums. I can be a right cuss when I'm not getting my way!
* I once drove through a blizzard and cleaned off her car so she didnt have to.
* I once dropped off "the good car" and drove the crappy car during yet another blizzard. I went to her office and switched cars out so that the good car was in the same parking spot...also freshly cleared of snow.
Would you consider going and getting morning coffee (or making it) romantic?
Breakfast in bed?
Having your favorite wine ready for you when you get home for work and a candle lit bath already drawn?
Having flowers waiting for you at your hotel room while you're away at a conference?
How about driving 7 hours just to have dinner with someone?
These things arent "romantic" to me, they are just nice things you do for someone when you wanna say "hey, I care" or even "hey, I kinda dig you".
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This gets me in trouble (as well as being a huge flirt) but I dont see any significant reason* not to be romantic even with acquaintance level people. In the rosey colored world I live in, Im allowed to make anyone happy if I so desire it.
The things that most people list as "romantic" are really just thoughtful, caring, loving, or down right lustful in nature. I pretty much got all of those covered!
* = Being in a relationship where your partner is very put off by this outward showing of love to others, the recipient being "weirded out" by the attention...those are a couple of good ones.
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If your goals are something other than pleasing yourself then I'd re-examine those.
Lets be honest, pouring a lot of energy into someone in hopes of getting {laid, closer to them, a hug, kiss, some of their tasty snack} and then not getting whatever... that tends to seem like a waste of time. The waste of time thing comes in, for me, when I have an expectation of something and it is not met. I combat this in my life by realizing when I have those "wants" and making sure that they are both "within reason for the situation" and "communicated clearly when appropriate". This doesnt always work but it has cut down on the number of incredibly pissy moment or blur-temper tantrums. I can be a right cuss when I'm not getting my way!
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