how dare she.....
ok so you all know of the whole 'mom selling the house' drama but its been elevated to a new level tonight...
i decided sometime last month that i wanted to move to a bigger apartment. 690sq feet aint cuttin it anymore and for what mom pays for me to live at my current abode i think i can have more space. plus because shes selling the house theres stuff i want and stuff i HAVE to take and right now i dont even have room for 2 more boxes of stuff let alone furniture. i want to be able to enjoy the things i'm taking from the house. i love them and dont want them to rot in storage ya know? my lease is up in january at my current place so i'll be moving then...
mom says tonight that she wont be putting the house on the market till spring since the economy is so bad. this house is such that it cant be left alone for long periods of time especially in extreme weather. when the power goes out here we have no water, without the wood stove the pipes would freeze, etc...so get this- she asked me to move all the way back up here to live alone for months and take care of the house alone.
i cant even walk well somedays and have fallen several times in my apartment, luckily theres been a couch bed or chair to catch me but still, i'm nearly fuckin invalid and she wants me to take care of a 2000+sq foot house, in winter, alone, to "cut costs." thats exactly what she said. she has to 'cut costs' and thought me moving up here would save her enough $$$ to move to ohio faster. when i explained what a hassle it is for me to be here for even a week WITH her help, she still didnt get it. i then went down the list of reasons why i cannot move back. and regardless of how you all feel about my reasons, i'm postin them because i need to. so i'm prepared for flaming saying i'm a bad daughter, i dont care
1. i can barely take care of my apartment, let alone a house more than twice the size
2. my bedroom here is upstairs. even moving everything downstairs i sleep worse here than in greensboro. i dont clean hardly ever and she'd come back to a pigsty.
3. there are already places in my apartment that mimi can get to faster than me. i cant keep this house safe for her and confining her here makes my heart break as it is. with mom here at least i have a backup to get to her quick when i cant. we keep her free as long as possible here.
4. here i'm so isolated if i fall and cant get help it could be quite bad. mom cites that at least there are people in town here who could help. i told her my only friend here is rhianna who has a 5month old and no drivers lisence. i'm just as alone here as i am in greensboro and that all those 'people' here are her friends not mine. i dont want to depend on other people especilly people i'm supposed to trust but dont really know. she even told me on another visit that i need to be more independant and i'm trying to do that but staying here would be a step backward.
5. all i have is my little mini. in the winter if theres any precipitation i'd be stuck up here for days, maybe over a week without a way to get food or medicine in an emergency. with bad weather in greensboro i'd maybe have to wait a day for them to plow the roads. and added to that, i cant haul in firewood when i slip on carpet some days. we get a loooot of ice in the winter up here.
6. i'm not comfortable here. i dont wanna spend my last days with this house alone and bitter. i want to remember the house filled with love and laughter
theres tons of other reasons but i said this to her. "mom, i cannot change this house to suit my needs. i will not be safe here alone. i can't do it"
it didnt turn into a fight because i cited that she made the decision to buy the house in ohio in september, she made the decision to sell this house and wait to put it on the market till spring. when one makes decisions, there are consequences and now she has to deal with them. we left it at that but its taken me over an hour to type this cuz i'm so upset. so goodnight
i decided sometime last month that i wanted to move to a bigger apartment. 690sq feet aint cuttin it anymore and for what mom pays for me to live at my current abode i think i can have more space. plus because shes selling the house theres stuff i want and stuff i HAVE to take and right now i dont even have room for 2 more boxes of stuff let alone furniture. i want to be able to enjoy the things i'm taking from the house. i love them and dont want them to rot in storage ya know? my lease is up in january at my current place so i'll be moving then...
mom says tonight that she wont be putting the house on the market till spring since the economy is so bad. this house is such that it cant be left alone for long periods of time especially in extreme weather. when the power goes out here we have no water, without the wood stove the pipes would freeze, etc...so get this- she asked me to move all the way back up here to live alone for months and take care of the house alone.
i cant even walk well somedays and have fallen several times in my apartment, luckily theres been a couch bed or chair to catch me but still, i'm nearly fuckin invalid and she wants me to take care of a 2000+sq foot house, in winter, alone, to "cut costs." thats exactly what she said. she has to 'cut costs' and thought me moving up here would save her enough $$$ to move to ohio faster. when i explained what a hassle it is for me to be here for even a week WITH her help, she still didnt get it. i then went down the list of reasons why i cannot move back. and regardless of how you all feel about my reasons, i'm postin them because i need to. so i'm prepared for flaming saying i'm a bad daughter, i dont care
1. i can barely take care of my apartment, let alone a house more than twice the size
2. my bedroom here is upstairs. even moving everything downstairs i sleep worse here than in greensboro. i dont clean hardly ever and she'd come back to a pigsty.
3. there are already places in my apartment that mimi can get to faster than me. i cant keep this house safe for her and confining her here makes my heart break as it is. with mom here at least i have a backup to get to her quick when i cant. we keep her free as long as possible here.
4. here i'm so isolated if i fall and cant get help it could be quite bad. mom cites that at least there are people in town here who could help. i told her my only friend here is rhianna who has a 5month old and no drivers lisence. i'm just as alone here as i am in greensboro and that all those 'people' here are her friends not mine. i dont want to depend on other people especilly people i'm supposed to trust but dont really know. she even told me on another visit that i need to be more independant and i'm trying to do that but staying here would be a step backward.
5. all i have is my little mini. in the winter if theres any precipitation i'd be stuck up here for days, maybe over a week without a way to get food or medicine in an emergency. with bad weather in greensboro i'd maybe have to wait a day for them to plow the roads. and added to that, i cant haul in firewood when i slip on carpet some days. we get a loooot of ice in the winter up here.
6. i'm not comfortable here. i dont wanna spend my last days with this house alone and bitter. i want to remember the house filled with love and laughter
theres tons of other reasons but i said this to her. "mom, i cannot change this house to suit my needs. i will not be safe here alone. i can't do it"
it didnt turn into a fight because i cited that she made the decision to buy the house in ohio in september, she made the decision to sell this house and wait to put it on the market till spring. when one makes decisions, there are consequences and now she has to deal with them. we left it at that but its taken me over an hour to type this cuz i'm so upset. so goodnight