V-Day and other ramblings...
Ah, Friday afternoons feel so lazy sometimes, but I'll be here for another few hours before the day is out. So far this internship at Island Def Jam Records has been relatively interesting and I even saw Jay-Z and Ludacris a couple weeks ago.
I realize that I don't get very starstruck whenever there are celebrities present... after all, I see them as just regular people with a lot of media exposure and money.
So the Valentine's Day buzz is coming and I hear my friends chattering away as to what they are going to do since they don't have a date. Or, if they do have someone, they racking their brains as to what they're going to do on that "oh, so special" night. It's funny how conversations will differ depending on if you're talking to a guy or a girl who has been in a long-term relationship.
Me: So what are you and your girl doing for V-day?
Guy: "Dunno... I'll figure it out tomorrow." (Valentine's being the next day.)
Let's just say that guy won't be gettin' any on V-day.
Women, on the other hand will already have an outfit picked put for their special night and have already imagined what their night will be like with their special guy...swoon, gasp, etc. *blah**blah**blah* While I don't hate Valentine's Day like some people might, I think that it is such a commercialized holiday. If you really like someone, you'll treat them well throughout the year... not just on February 14. However, it does give some of us an excuse to do the romantic things we sometimes forget to do while we're too busy with our daily lives. For others, it will be an opportunity to go out with that cute girl/guy for a night out on the town and the possibility of love and happily ever after somewhere down the line.
However, for those of us who don't have anyone special to take out on Valentine's Day, it's often a time for reflection about all the reasons we're not in some sort of stable relationship. That's not to condone the practice of staying in a relationship simply to have some companionship. Too often people stay in something longer than they should because they fear being alone and not being able to finding another person to replace the fading, fleeting or false love they have now. So they resign themselves to a dying relationship because they feel they can do no better or don't deserve any better. My words of advice... that's not true. We all deserve someone that makes us happy, someone that inspires us to be better, someone that makes the world a brighter place to wake up to.
Too often, I see women get caught up with paper statistics of a relationship... and forget about how that person makes us feel. I hear excuses from women such as: "he's good-looking," "he's successful," "he's a doctor," "he can take care of me"... while those might all be true statements, they're not good enough reasons just to stay in a bad relationship. Oftentimes, the reality is that he's more concerned about himself than anything or anyone else in his life at the moment while working hard to make more money for himself and earning himself accolades. (Hell, it happened to my sister at one point.) Regardless, I think it's unfortunate when a woman (or a guy for that matter) resigns himself to such a relationship because they're either afraid of not having someone there or not finding someone as "good" again. Perhaps society has trained us to place so much emphasis upon certain positive characteristics in a person that we are willing to accept a sub-standard relationship in order to hold onto someone exhibiting those positive qualities. *shrug*
I always tell my friends to watch out for selfish and arrogant people. Selfish people tend to cheat more often because their needs and interests come before those of others and therefore should the opportunity present itself, they're more likely to think about themselves than their partners and do the dirty deed.
As for arrogance, if a person who thinks they are better than everyone else will not treat you with an equal amount of respect and eventually use that as an excuse for their actions... including cheating on you. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance... confidence is simply being comfortable in your own skin without always making it a point to announce it to the world when you're pretty/handsome, good/skilled at something, etc. There's something to be said about being humble. Man, I sound so damn preachy... sorry.
I'm certainly not perfect by any means.
So what do I look for in someone? Someone kind, someone sweet, someone patient, someone engaging (chemistry), intelligent, open-minded, and of course, someone I'm physically attracted to. It's not a long list, but it's a very general list... I guess I'll just know when I meet that person and get them to pour out their soul to me. Hey, noone out there is perfect... but it's about finding someone that's imperfectly perfect for you... you find their clicks endearing and they find yours endearing as well... kinda like two puzzle pieces that fit perfectly together. Sure, you can force some pieces together to make an awkward fit, but only one will truly match. Damn... this time of year really does make me sound so friggin' sappy.
On another note, I'm now an uncle... my niece Averie was born January 13. I'll post up a picture soon.
Have a great wekend folks!