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[yakko1]

How does one let go of the past in order to live in the present and hope for the future? I realize that I have pangs of guilt within me that haunt me from my break-up earlier this month. Just when I think that everything is just peachy, something seeps up from the deep recesses of my brain to remind me of the hurt. I will heal... I'm just more

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[morose_hands]

Not too late to what?

What did happen to that one "plannn..." you were telling me at Gumps that day? Remember... you needed to get a few in b4 heading back to NYC?

I wish I could tell you something to help, but really, I would be the biggest hypocrite. I still cant fully get back into the "dating game" without feeling like Im doing something wrong to J. Do you think you guys will get back together in the future?

[yakko1]

Hahaha... Sal, you know that's not me. I'm into building real relationships that last... not just hook up. Although my guy friends would love it if I went buck wild.

As for hopping back onto the saddle, I would like to move on, but I can't help but to feel some guilt... say there was someone right now that you thought could make you happy... would you pursue it and forget the guilt? Is there such a thing as 'too soon' to move on?

[morose_hands]

Originally, I thought to say "follow your heart..," but on second thought, the heart doesn't always watch out for yours or the other person best interest.

I think there is such a thing as moving on 'too soon' because all that emotional baggage will be brought up in your new relationship. It can hinder you from moving freely in your new relationship and keeps you jaded with images of your past relationship failures. Sit back and let all those emotions seep... and go through all your emotions... 'dressing the grave' so to speak. Lets go back to the cliche and say, "If its meant to be, itll happen."

Find a place yet hotstuff?

[chibi_apple]

there's following your heart and using your head(logic). your heart tells you what you want to do....yet logically, your head tells you what is the right or wrong thing to do. but when you follow your heart, it always turns out to be the right thing to do in the end because at least you can live your life with no regrets.

[morose_hands]

I dont think it is that simple to just "follow your heart." I personally feel that just to say "follow your heart," is a way to assuage the angst of the conflict between the id and the superego. Moreover, I gather that you feel the same way I do from your response that the heart does not seek logic, but rather it responds to inclination and perhaps temptation. Therefore, it depends on the person whether or not they feel that doing what IS right or what FEELS right is actually, well, right. Moreover, how can you decipher between "following your heart" and "following your head?" We tend to classify doing what feels good for ourselves and leave out the needs of others by saying "following our hearts." And about regret, hindsight is 20/20 and its just never "following your heart" that leads us not to feel regret, because you can just easily say, "I did whats right at the moment, so i cant regret it." Perhaps some of this may make no sense to you and you still feel the same way about following your heart, but to me, its just never THAT

Logic v. Heart

[yakko1]

Ummm... Sal, I don't think you need to go into a Freudian discussion about the superego and id on this issue. I think your heart will lead you in the right direction in most cases. Temptation isn't necessarily a bad thing unless you're easily tempted and forsake logic completely... kind of like not wearing protection in the heat of the moment. :P Okay, so that's not the best example... maybe getting into a fistfight instead of talking things through. I dunno. Regardless, some things shouldn't be completely dictated by logic... sometimes you just have act upon the feelings you have for another or risk losing them. Of course, you can always argue that if they were understanding then they would give you time to think... etc., etc. There is not easy answer, but I think we all must find what sits well within ourselves... what we feel is right. Some people are very happy being logical, some people are happy with going with their heart. I think for most of us, it lies somewhere in the middle... you just have to find the right

Re: Logic v. Heart

[morose_hands]

Steve, its called baggage. I prefer to use my head and so far, my head has got me further than my heart ever did. When using my head,Ive tended to get myself far more involved than need be. So, if i dont need to use my freudian references.. should I use Plato?

[chibi_apple]

we just make things complicated...things can be simple if we see it that way.

[morose_hands]

Yea, you are right. I do like to really think over issues...that can perhaps be simple, but than again, it does serve its purpose of not leaving out possibilities... but than again... See! there i go again! = )

[chibi_apple]

lol!