My art is in the form of words, so I'll state my opinion on artwork (DA-ish) and writing (FF.net/FP.net ect).
If you don't want to be told you are doing something wrong, don't show it to anyone. Because nothing is perfect and someone will always say something. If you write poetry or prose and want to just get pats on the back, you can show it to your friends and your parents and expect the gloves to stay on. But if you put it on a forums, people will comment. Maybe they hate it. Maybe they like it. Maybe they just want to help. Or, worst of all, they just don't care and 100+ views later, nothing is said. After all, isn't silence the most telling thing?
I would rather someone care than not bother myself. If I want to let people know I understand my own flaws, I will make notes. For example, if I show someone something that I wrote in say, 8th grade (in college now, so that's a good chunk of time), I will say this is something I have no plans on revising, but I am posting it to show people who read my current work how far it has come.
If someone tries to revise older work, that is their own inability to understand the uselessness of their words. I honestly don't mind or pay heed to people who don't read all the way through on disclaimers and notes about that. Otherwise, I welcome all kinds of people's opinions. Not because I think everyone is right, but because I can do that much at least since they took their time to at least try.
Insofar as art, the same applies for the written word. If you don't want comments, don't post it. If you just want to show something older to show improvement, note it and shrug off people who don't pay attention.
Now, for giving comments. I find it best to write something, delete it, then write it again so you have to think about what you are saying and how it will be read if you are trying to criticize. If you want to state your opinion, speak your mind freely because it is yours to say, which is what I am doing right now.
If I were to say I don't like your structure on something, I would write my thoughts, delete it, re-read what I am criticizing, re-write it, then post it. That is the best way for me to not get misunderstood, which happens a LOT on forums and in large posts where I'm not communicating directly with someone (say, in life where I can point out my meaning physically or in a chat room which is more real-time).
Some other people might not have my problem, but I try what I can to avoid trouble. But as far as other people go, I just admit that it is a fact that more than a handful don't communicate very well. They don't understand how to communicate through text, they won't admit to any mistakes, and they get butt-hurt over weird things that make no sense.
To them, it's usually best to just be amused and move on. Someday, they'll learn. Or not. It's really not something you can usually do anything about, in my experience.
TL;DR: Don't post/share if you don't want feedback.
Re: In my Opinion...xxbalaaxxApril 6 2010, 22:24:01 UTC
Good points. This was the reason I made the point of growing thicker skin. The purpose of this entry was merely to give people food for though, or perspectives from both sides of the fence to consider C:.
Thank you for the comment! From a personal perspective, I agree and when I post my own work, I expect to receive comments of all sorts. I just try to take more care when offering my time and critique to someone else.
Re: In my Opinion...ravenveApril 6 2010, 22:30:58 UTC
I appreciate throwing food to people, which is why I added my own opinions. :3 Too much random stuff around here, very little is connected in LJ, so when I find something I like, I feel like replying to it.
If you don't want to be told you are doing something wrong, don't show it to anyone. Because nothing is perfect and someone will always say something. If you write poetry or prose and want to just get pats on the back, you can show it to your friends and your parents and expect the gloves to stay on. But if you put it on a forums, people will comment. Maybe they hate it. Maybe they like it. Maybe they just want to help. Or, worst of all, they just don't care and 100+ views later, nothing is said. After all, isn't silence the most telling thing?
I would rather someone care than not bother myself. If I want to let people know I understand my own flaws, I will make notes. For example, if I show someone something that I wrote in say, 8th grade (in college now, so that's a good chunk of time), I will say this is something I have no plans on revising, but I am posting it to show people who read my current work how far it has come.
If someone tries to revise older work, that is their own inability to understand the uselessness of their words. I honestly don't mind or pay heed to people who don't read all the way through on disclaimers and notes about that. Otherwise, I welcome all kinds of people's opinions. Not because I think everyone is right, but because I can do that much at least since they took their time to at least try.
Insofar as art, the same applies for the written word. If you don't want comments, don't post it. If you just want to show something older to show improvement, note it and shrug off people who don't pay attention.
Now, for giving comments. I find it best to write something, delete it, then write it again so you have to think about what you are saying and how it will be read if you are trying to criticize. If you want to state your opinion, speak your mind freely because it is yours to say, which is what I am doing right now.
If I were to say I don't like your structure on something, I would write my thoughts, delete it, re-read what I am criticizing, re-write it, then post it. That is the best way for me to not get misunderstood, which happens a LOT on forums and in large posts where I'm not communicating directly with someone (say, in life where I can point out my meaning physically or in a chat room which is more real-time).
Some other people might not have my problem, but I try what I can to avoid trouble. But as far as other people go, I just admit that it is a fact that more than a handful don't communicate very well. They don't understand how to communicate through text, they won't admit to any mistakes, and they get butt-hurt over weird things that make no sense.
To them, it's usually best to just be amused and move on. Someday, they'll learn. Or not. It's really not something you can usually do anything about, in my experience.
TL;DR: Don't post/share if you don't want feedback.
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Thank you for the comment! From a personal perspective, I agree and when I post my own work, I expect to receive comments of all sorts. I just try to take more care when offering my time and critique to someone else.
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